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    HEALTHYASHLEY   21,638
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I am happy

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

A big part of my regain was feeling out of control. My fiancÚ and I came very close to splitting up. I was starting a business. I was eating to compensate for great sadness and frustration. So I made a lot of changes. We worked on our relationship and it is better than it is has been since we met. I got a mentor at a new agency and immediately sold a house and listed 2 others. I started putting my friendships back together. The eating better just followed. Once I made myself happy I wanted to eat well and lose weight. It came naturally.
Sparkpeople has come in last unfortunately but it is what I need right now. I am back to using the tracker but just do not have time to blog as much as I did before and I am not going to feel guilty about it. Part of finding balance was accepting I can not be all things and prioritizing. I miss a lot of my friends on here. I think of all of you often. The truth is I needed to be present in life and not spending hours behind a keyboard. I hope I can post some weight loss pics soon as I know that is coming again.

Please let me know how you are as well? Any great aha's lately?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
NANHBH 8/21/2013 2:08AM


Now I know that you understand why I haven't been able to read blogs lately. I just needed to focus my energy offline. Great to catch up with you! So happy for you for all that is going on in your life.

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MELLYBEANS0919 6/8/2013 3:01PM

    I've been away from Spark for almost 2 months myself. Just wanted to pop back on and see how everyone was doing. I totally understand where you are coming from, your reasons are my reasons for stepping back too.
I am so happy to hear you are happy :-)

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IDAHOFLOWER 5/29/2013 11:25PM

    Yes you come first. emoticon

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MI-ELLKAYBEE 5/29/2013 8:53PM

    Again, dear friend, May God bless your success on this journey we all share!

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GEMINIGEM6 5/29/2013 5:50PM

    Good for you for taking care of yourself and your needs. That's where it all starts. Happy for you!

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COOKWITHME65 5/27/2013 11:06AM

    So great to hear good news from you Ashley! Congrats on your selling a house and your new outlook on healthy eating. All relationships have there ups and downs. You have proved that you two can work things out despite the stresses in both of your lives. You inspire me to always do better.

Love ya! ~ K

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IGSBETH 5/23/2013 5:10PM

    I am glad you are feeling better!

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LITTLEONEJLC 5/23/2013 1:38PM

    Glad things are turning around, Ashley. I have been losing/gaining the same few pounds forever. This week I decided to commit to recording everything I eat. The commitment was not to stay within the calorie range, but just to record. I know to some that sounds ridiculous, but I've been out of the habit of recording EVERYTHING, so I felt this was a good place to start. Now that I am recording everything, it has made me want to stay in the range, so I'm feeling good about it. Looking forward to seeing your weight loss pictures! We can do this!

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CRESHA20 5/23/2013 8:03AM

    I am glad that you are doing so well. I definitely miss your blogs, but it is more important to be present in life than behind a computer trying to keep us informed on a regular basis. I have found that I cannot spend as much time online because I have other things to do. I recently went away to a health and wellness spa. It really helped me put a lot of things in perspective and gave me a jumpstart from a slump I had found myself in. Since I have been back home, I have been working out on a regular basis as well as eating better most of the time. Some days are a little harder than others, but as long as I am doing good most of the time, I know that I am on the right track. Keep on being happy, and I look forward to seeing some progress pictures whenever you find the time to post them. emoticon

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ROCKMAN6797 5/22/2013 11:43PM

    Good to hear that you are doing well Ashley. Keep focused on you and the rest will fall into place.


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CALVIND 5/22/2013 9:53PM

    I have been thinking of you lately. Glad to hear your back on track. I have been struggling also lately. Glad you are happy and succeeding in your career and personal life. Can't wait to see pics and more blogs when you find the time.

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HOLLYS_NEW_LIFE 5/22/2013 9:09PM

    I'm so glad to hear that you're happy. I'm happy to hear that YOU are your first priority, as it should be. We'll always be here for you. *HUGS*

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WILDFLOWERS15 5/22/2013 6:25PM

    Glad to hear you're taking care of you. I think, as women, that is the hardest thing in the world. I know it is for me. Good luck to you!!

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WORTHEYMOM 5/22/2013 5:44PM

    woot woot baby! glad to hear things are back on track and better than ever! keep up the super work on you and the rest will follow!

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KTTAYLOR21 5/22/2013 4:02PM

    Emotional eating is something I've noticed with myself here recently. A lot of unease going on, but I will get through to the other side. I want to become mindful of what I'm eating because I haven't been caring... AT ALL!!

I just graduated with my Bachelors last weekend so that was exciting. Other then that I have been hiding my emotions with eating. And no one appears to be none the wiser. I went from wearing my emotions on my sleeves, to eating them instead. I don't know which one is better. emoticon

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JSPIN74 5/22/2013 4:01PM

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SLFRISBEY 5/22/2013 1:24PM

    I am so glad you are happy. I know the stress of fighting/ unease with your significant other. I went through it last year and it was a terrible trigger for emotional eating. Keep on making you your priority, I am proud of you! :)

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LAKEGIRL76 5/22/2013 1:18PM

    I am glad to hear things are looking up!! It is amazing what being happy can do for weight loss. So many times we think that if only we could lose weight, we will be happy, but in reality if we work on being happy, the weight loss follows.

Congrats on selling a house!!!!

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BAYBELIEVER 5/22/2013 11:54AM

    That's right. And I can feel your happiness. Do what you need to do to stay happy! We will be here. Well, when we can and we are't making ourselves happy too!

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ALPINESALLIE 5/22/2013 11:40AM

    sometimes we fall, but it sounds like you've got your head in the game and eyes on the prize :-)

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GINA180847 5/22/2013 11:37AM

    I have been thinking about you Ashley, real estate can be such harsh environment and you are a sensitive lady. Your last blot I read said to me that you were struggling. So I am so glad to find out that you are doing so much better. I am especially glad that your love relationship has come first in your life. Our guys deserve the best of us. As for me I am down a little but nothing exciting. We had a health scare and are eating much better. I still need to lose about 25 lbs. Take good care of yourself!

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STEPHANIE302013 5/22/2013 11:37AM

    so glad to see you posting again! you will succeed!!

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NOTABOUTHEFACE 5/22/2013 11:35AM

    So glad to hear you're doing well! You've got to be your own priority, everyone will understand. ;-)

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