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You are Awesome and I Love You

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Thank you so much to everyone who told me that it was okay to get rid of negatives in my life. You're so right. I've done it before, and I'm all the happier for it. Once my dad's ashes have been spread, I never have to speak to her again. And there's no reason to go out of my way to spend my limited budget on presents for them, when they couldn't even send me an e-mail. If I want to remember them, I can send e-cards and spend the money on people who actually care about me.

Like my coworker Gail, who not only got me a HUGE gorgeous bouquet of flowers and a card that sings "Ring of Fire" when you open it, but today she made me Tiramisu to celebrate at work!

Our families are what we make of them. And I have enough people that love me (you guys are definitely included in that one) that I shouldn't be bothered by a few people that don't. But just like those of us that self-criticize our weight and looks, I often self-criticize my personality. My first thoughts are always "What's wrong with me that *blank* doesn't like me?" You know what though? Sometimes some people just don't like some other people. I certainly don't like some people. I was just unfortunate enough that I got stuck with some people who were supposed to be "family" that didn't like me for whatever reason (probably because I'm not mega-successful or have two Master's degrees). Oh well. Screw em! emoticon

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    Lots of great wisdom here. Ditto what RHEYNKLAW says!!!


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    `*♥☆ Keep Spreading the Spark!!!
    1758 days ago
    1760 days ago
    Sometimes our friends are more family to us than our real blood family!!!
    1760 days ago
    AWEsome blog and AWEsome person writing it! GOOD for you! I have done the same thing with family, and as you said family is what you make not necessarily those placed in your life via blood or marriage!

    What a great co-worker! Nice gifts!

    Have a great day! emoticon
    1760 days ago
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    1760 days ago
    keep making strides
    1760 days ago
    Screw em is right! emoticon And can I just say for you to touch so many people just over the internet, and for us all to WANT to interact with you and talk to you shows that your personality is Sparkling, which shows me you are only that much more amazing in person! emoticon emoticon
    1761 days ago
  • KATYDID412
    You're awesome.

    1761 days ago
    Their behavior toward you says a lot more about them than it does about you. Anyone who doesn't like you just has terrible taste in people!
    1761 days ago
    You know that saying that you can choose your friends, but not your relatives?

    Nobody is liked by everyone - ABSOLUTELY NOBODY. It simply isn't worth getting yourself upset about that sort of thing, because it's not even humanly possible. It's difficult at accept, but you certainly aren't alone. No two people are alike, which keeps things interesting, but also means there is no way we will all agree on everything.

    For example, I have a sister who will never understand me or our brothers no matter what we say or do. She feels we're not treating her fairly when we don't take her side in every trivial, pathetic complaint she has against her ex or her in-laws or her job, life in general, etc. My brothers even suggested perhaps she came from a different gene pool, but we cope as best we can and try to avoid the craziness. Sometimes you just have to let her throw a snit-fit and feel put-upon while you remain at a distance.

    Be strong and live your life the way that you feel meets the standards and beliefs you feel are what you want to strive toward. People who don't agree - Life is WAY TOO SHORT to let those twits put their nastiness into your minutes or hours or days or any other increment of time in your life. emoticon
    1761 days ago
    Taking responsibility for your actions is one of the best qualities in a person. But you should only take it if you have done something wrong. Don't accuse yourself of the behavior of other people. They failed to understand and appreciate you. As I said before: it's their loss.

    I completely agree that friends are the family we choose, and there are occasions in which true friends are more precious than our relatives.

    Be who you are and who you want to be. At least, even if nobody likes you, there will be someone who appreciates you: yourself.

    1761 days ago
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