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Tuesday, May 21, 2013

I am weak willed and minded . I am easily discouraged . YOu could cut me down but I am different now then I was years ago . we used to square dance . loved it . I allowed a woman to make me quite going . this woman came up to me and said . Your head is to big for your body and you look stupid . your hands are bigger then mine . I am a small bone lady and you are just big. the look she gave me just pushed me right back to school . I never had the backbone to stand up to anyone she said her husband told her not to say anything to me but she could not stop herself . wanted to tell me many weeks these facts . I did tell her why are you telling me this ? If it where something I could change I would but I can not change my head . It is what it is . new teeth can be bought . fat can be lost but not my head . she then turned and walked away . I then could not dance I kept thinking gee my head is to big my hands are bigger then most . I am not worthy to belong to this group of people . then I began to make excuses as to why I can not go to this weeks dance . after a few months of not going husband no longer asked to go . good I thought . but in hindsight I know in my heart this was the wrong way to settle this woman . now my thought went to hit . I should have belted her and made her regret her words but am glad I did not do that . I was a lady . perhaps more then she when she made me self aware of myself . do not spend a min. Worrying about something you can not change . your time should be spend on a worthwhile project . something that matters and not something that is meaning less . just some thoughts in passing . emoticon
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    All I can say is WOW...there is something seriously wrong with that woman that she felt the need to walk up to you and say something like that. Even more wrong with her that she felt the need to think it! People like that should not be allowed out of the house. I'm sorry she said that to you, but she is SMALL minded and a SMALL person for thinking such things let alone opening her mouth to speak them. Shame on her!
    1623 days ago
    Not only was she the one with issues, not you, but what in the world possesses a person to walk up to someone and tell them that she "has" to tell them they have a bigger head or hands. It just proves two things, she is the smaller woman, in more ways than body, and she has is a couple of cards short of a full deck. Don't give her another moment's thought, and don't give her the power to take away your joy in dancing. find another square dancing group and enjoy! God alone knows what was wrong with that woman! emoticon
    IKacey co-leader of the Grandmothers Fitness Club
    1699 days ago
  • SKATER787
    When are you going back to square dancing?
    1702 days ago
    Thinking about why people say stupid things? Just weird and sad...I just try to shake it off but reality is I have let people like you encounter piss me off and get to me. One thing I am learning is time management...and my time is more valuable with people NOT LIKE HER! Do not waste another minute...thanks for sharing, the next time I encounter someone like her - I will think like the country song " I got better things to do..."
    1706 days ago
    That lady (you were the lady, not her.) must of had some built up hate inside of herself. We can dance all we want to and be proud of it! You go girl! Thank you for sharing. I am going to dance through out the day!

    1707 days ago
    Don't listen to the junk that toxic people use to put others down. They must lack self-confidence and need to do that to make themselves feel better in their own eyes. You are worthy and beautiful.

    1708 days ago
    If you love to dance then go do it. She obviously has her own issues if she said that to you.
    1708 days ago
    I agree, she was rude and you were not. If you enjoy dancing, go back and do not let her get the better of you.
    1708 days ago
    Dance away! In the Bible, David danced.
    1708 days ago
    Everyone has an opinion, but it does not make theirs right! I would have had to ask, what makes you so thoughtless and rude. Have lived long enough and experienced many things, so the answers are right there, even without me thinking about them. Do not let anyone steal your joy!
    1708 days ago
  • SPEEDY143
    emoticon yikes!!!! Poor woman she must be the most unhappy soul to attack you like that and yes, that's exactly what she did. You, on the other hand, were to kind but then again civilized people don't strike back... unfortunately we tend to take it and retreat into ourselves or seek solace in things that do us harm as punishment because we think maybe we deserved the put down?!? NEVER!!!! What a life lesson... so glad you shared and don't feel like a victim any more emoticon

    Life goes on... embrace it, YOU deserve a life filled with dancing emoticon I hope you and your DH think seriously about joining another square dancing group emoticon emoticon
    1708 days ago
    If all the world was like her . . . wouldn't it be horrible?
    I'm glad there are people like you
    I hope you know just how valuable you are!
    1708 days ago
    I am so glad you shared this! You are absolutely right, you were and remain the better woman. Why on God's planet this woman thought she felt she owed you such a rude and thoughtless remark is beyond me, but I will say they it sounds like it came straight from the pit of hell. The devil loves to hide behind familiar faces to destroy us, our families, anything and everything he can get his disgusting hands on. I am so proud of you! I am so encouraged! Please know that my husband and now my youngest daughter have "larger than normal" heads, and I LOVE THEM! I think they are beautiful just the way they are. GOD LOVES VARIETY! He made you just the way he wanted, and it brings him GREAT DELIGHT to see you just the way you are. I am so sorry that ignoramus of a woman did not see your true worth and value. Her loss, I pray God gives her eyes to see and a heart to understand before she burns in hell and has a special degree of punishment for what she has said to you alone! You are very special! VERY loved and very valuable! You get it girl! You can do this!!! Xo Xo
    1708 days ago
    Ugh! I can't believe how ugly, rude, and mean spirited that woman was/is. What would possess anyone to walk up to someone and say that? All I can think of is jealousy - it seems to me that you have to be jealous of someone in order to want to cut them down like that. Grrrrrr.

    And you know what a bigger head means? A bigger brain! emoticon And you certainly proved you have much more brain capacity than that *ahem* lady.

    I know I can never make a retort when someone comes down on me like that - I think I'm so shocked by the behavior that I freeze. And then I come up with all the zingers later - when it's too late.

    Don't let any thoughts of this woman stop you for one more second. You deserve all the happiness in the world, she deserves... well... I'll take the high road and not spell it out...

    Thanks for sharing!
    1708 days ago
    What a rude wench
    I comend you for your restraint
    You have a good heart its whats on the inside that counts

    1708 days ago
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