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A less passionate, more business-like approach

Monday, May 20, 2013

I remember many years ago having several extremely tiring and frustrating days and nights as a new mother with my infant son. I sat there, feeling completely overwhelmed and thinking about my lack of abilities. I said honestly, "I don't think I can do this; I don’t think I have what it takes to be a mother.”

My always pragmatic husband immediately responded with, "Too late now!"

My husband, who has made his career out of managing people and projects, knows better than anyone I know how to break down a large complex undertaking into small daily tasks that will get the job done -- on time and within budget. His skill lies in the careful but dispassionate monitoring of continual progress being made.

I, on the other hand, have accomplished a lot, too – but usually with sporadic and passionate bursts of energy and enthusiasm. By the completion of each project, my energy was usually depleted. In between those bursts would be quiet time – resting – renewal for the next big project.

During my time here on SP, I have learned that periodic bursts of energy and enthusiasm are not what lead to successful long-term weight loss and maintenance.

It turns out that my husband’s business-like approach is a far better one.

Being on SP has taught me that if I just do two or three things every day, I will be doing all that is necessary to achieve my goals: track my food, stay within the calorie range, and exercise (for me, that usually means walking 3 miles).

The passion, the energy, and the enthusiasm are all still good – and some days I have them all. On those days, I might try a new recipe, or try out a new exercise, or write a blog about a new insight.

But even if I don’t feel them, there are still just three things I need to do every day.

Today, I will track my food, stay within the calorie range, and exercise.

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  • KANOE10
    You are exactly right. Keep doing those three things even on days that you do not feel motivated. That is what will keep you successful. Great strategy for staying healthy.

    1733 days ago
    Absolutely! Small steps eventually lead to success. Great blog.

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    1735 days ago
    Good advice!
    1736 days ago
    Very insightful!

    emoticon for taking the time to share with us.

    God bless!
    1736 days ago
    Hmmm...good way to approach this journey!! thanks for sharing.
    1736 days ago
    Let's not let our husbands know that are right. emoticon LOL. Seriously I think sometimes the best teams are ones like you and your husband who have different approaches. There is something to be said for spontaneity and passion .
    1736 days ago
    Awesome blog, I agree wholeheartedly. Even though my heart isn't in it every day, I sure track/workout/drink water anyway! It is the consistency, not the periodic inspiration, that will get us to goal and beyond.
    1736 days ago
    Very reasonable POV. I agree that the trick to long term change is the easy stuff we can do daily, not the hard core starvation/overexercising passion we might have for a week!
    1736 days ago
    Those little tasks completed always add up to the bigger one. With a tracker you can see it, without a tracker you have to try to remember it, and memory is not trustworthy. Which is why we track in the first place. People keep endless lists when planning, say, a wedding, but when it comes to weight loss they don't. Planners are essential for everything.
    1736 days ago
    " if I just do two or three things every day" - they become habits and healthy ones @ that!
    1736 days ago
    So important to remember. We get our passionate moments, but the basics in life prepare us for them and get us there. This is a fine blog. I sometimes think of Spark as a kind of job... I have fun here, but I'm all about doing what needs to be done too. Love that you have raised the issue in this clever way.
    1736 days ago
    Not so glamorous or exciting . . . but I'm suspect of my fits of enthusiasm! Just keeping on keeping on works.
    1736 days ago
  • DEBRA0818
    Yes, the essentials are all that is required -- I was thinking the same thing as I did my daily water aerobics routine. The incremental progress (1-2 pounds per week) may not be the kind of progress that hysteria brings, but it will get me to my destination safely and sanely. And it's just by following the rules I have been given to follow, one day at a time.

    1736 days ago
    Yepper, it's all too easy to get caught up in the drive to do everything... picking a core set of dailies then adding to it when you can and when you need to is probably good practice - sez she who has yet to learn a happy medium, lol...
    1736 days ago
    Ha! I'm the same way! It's all or nothing, no consistency for me and gotta remember slow and steady wins the race. I gotta work on that, thanks for the reminder. :)
    1737 days ago
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