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My sweet hubs..a true blessing on our 35th wedding anniversary!

Monday, May 20, 2013

My sweetie pie dug out our wedding photo from WHO knows where and updated our facebook status with it. He wrote a VERY sweet public proclamation to accompany it that was so VERY sweet, uplifting and flattering to me...I'm blushing just typing this! emoticon

Our beautiful son (dearly departed) Josh inherited a lot of his sweet nature and loving ways. He is steady, and supportive, and sweet and considerate. Not bad in 'charming selection' of husband material eh?

Our marriage was a second for both of us. We both had came out of stormy rocky relationships before and we started off as just really great supportive friends for a very long time before we ever thought we'd be a couple.

Most of the time our conversations involved talking about the happiness we both seemed to have found and the PEACE we could now enjoy even if on our own (former partners were CRAZY people emoticon ) Then we'd go on to try and analyze how we'd avoid that type of person ever again if we were lucky enough to meet someone else.

I had been married for 10 years with the last 9 being fatally unhappy. Can you imagine my former husband wouldn't even let me have a telephone because he said I didn't need to be sitting around gabbing all day! emoticon These were NOT the dark ages they were the 70's! emoticon It was a year long fight to get him to allow me to actually get a full time job! He'd have preferred to keep me chained in the house and with no car available that wasn't all that difficult.

This is what seems to happen up when you pick someone just because they are muscle bound and good looking. You have pretty warped priorities in selecting someone at age 13 then winding up married at 17 with a baby girl at age 18! Talk about TRAPPED! emoticon

I must have been the only girl on planet earth that did NOT want to marry this guy but was bullied into it with no family support protecting my own interests. My mother having very FLAWED abilities to see this guy as the bully that he was thought that he was totally wonderful. the wise...the most ROTTEN people can sometimes be the best looking and the MOST charming on the surface. Beware! emoticon

DH made much the same mistakes. He fell for a girl several years older than him who thought she was the cat's meow. She dumped him after 4 years of marriage for a big insurance executive at the company she worked for. DH's heart was broken and I think he held a pretty big grudge against women for a good long time after that. emoticon

But being the sometimes flawed humans that we are...he jumped right back into another relationship with a totally CRAZY woman who would hunt him down in the same way my ex-husband would when we separated. We could have filmed 'Fatal Attraction' and if we were the stars it wouldn't be acting!

We were both un-nerved by former crazy relationships and in no hurry whatsoever to repeat them. Whereever we went (DM was not a huge town) the two stalkers seemed he** bent on tracking us down. WONDER we moved to FL as soon as we got married. 1800 miles away from our home towns seemed like a VERY good cushion of safety for us. It was the SMARTEST thing we EVER did! emoticon

Now today...on our wedding anniversary celebration...some 35 years later I really want to call his best friend and room mate...the one that had warned DH off of our friendship when it became more than that and he proposed marriage to me.

He told my hubs "If she's been married to that guy for 10 years and has been with him since age 13, she's gonna dump you and go back to him!" Can you imagine the impact that would have on a guy that had been through the rotten experience he had? Not good for the girl (that would be ME) in the picture...not good at all!

This well meaning but blubber brained friend... OBVIOUSLY didn't know my ex!

Had he...he would never have uttered that misplaced advise! I felt SO lucky to have escaped with my life!

I told DH that I'd NEVER, EVER, EVER be under the thumb of a man again...NEVER...with finger pointing for emphasis and good measure!

Luckily he's a live and let live kind of guy and he knows that I'm the loyalest person on the face of the earth. He knew if I was in a committed relationship I'd NEVER do to him what his first wife did.

I knew that he'd NEVER bully me, or try to own me in the way that my ex-husband did so a wonderful relationship of trust and respect was born.

Obviously it was the BEST choice for both of us. If you have a bad relationship in your past. DON'T chose the same type of person over'll just end up repeating your misery!

We are off to Sanibel Island and Captiva Island today to take a nice hike or bicycle ride in Ding Darling Park. Or we may just stroll the beach and do a little shell picking. We'll find a nice cafe and have a good seafood luncheon. Or we may have a snack and chose dinner instead.

You isn't WHAT we's that we DO it together...that's what a good marriage boils down to! emoticon emoticon

I am truly blessed to have the wonderful hubs that I do...truly! emoticon emoticon emoticon

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
AWESOMECHELZ 5/22/2013 11:49AM

    What a beautiful love story! I have never married because I was too afraid due to the sexual abuse but now that I have healed much, I look forward to marrying someday. Your story gives me hope that someday I will find a loving partner and further heal my life.

God bless you both and what a darling wedding photo!

Love, Chelsea emoticon

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TEDDYBEAR662 5/21/2013 1:17PM

    So glad all worked out and you two are so happy together!!! That's awesome and I wish you both the very best in the MANY years a head of you! Congrats to you both! Hope you had a wonderful day! Happy 35th Anniversary!

P.S. Great wedding picture!!!
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JAZZEJR 5/21/2013 11:50AM

    Whaat!!! You didn't tell your Bears about your anniversary????!!!! Well, I'm sure you had a happy celebration, and I wish you 100+ more! :) emoticon emoticon emoticon

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EJOY-EVELYN 5/21/2013 11:18AM

    You're so beautiful when you blush! Love, love, love this photo! What a blessing you two are. People who learn to forgive quickly, are people who know the meaning of love and commitment that brings true joy and an incredible peace to a relationship. We all have our quirks and while it pales in lieu of some of our crazy (love this word) histories (mine included), we will continue to mess up and are able to learn how to find joy even amidst the chaos.

May you both have many, many more years to complete each other in ways that increase your love and joy. Hug, hug, my dear friend and true Florida sunshine!

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BONNIEMARGAY 5/21/2013 3:32AM

    Love is a miracle, every time.

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SVELTEWARRIOR 5/20/2013 11:43PM

    What a beautiful marriage!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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SPARKLINGME176 5/20/2013 9:27PM

    Happy, happy always!!!!!
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TSISQUAUSDI 5/20/2013 8:47PM

    Good lord, girl! You were no bigger than a skinned fart when you got married! So tiny!

Happy Anniversary!!!! Woohoo!! emoticon emoticon

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ANGELCOWBOY1 5/20/2013 8:44PM

    A very, very happy anniversary to you and your sweetie! Having been in a similar marriage as your first, I can truly relate to your blog. Blessings to you both!

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HOLLYM48 5/20/2013 7:52PM

    Happy Anniversary.. so glad you found your one true love! Enjoy your time together doing whatever your heart desires!

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DARLY55 5/20/2013 7:45PM

    That was so sweet a story! I love the picture, what a beautiful couple. Happy Anniversary!

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GOING-STRONG 5/20/2013 6:31PM

    Love the wedding picture.. how fun to see that! Be sure and take a 35th anniversary photo. I love our 25th taken on the Beach. xoxo


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ADRIENALINE 5/20/2013 6:17PM

    What a happy story. Congrats on your anniversary

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BAMAJAM 5/20/2013 5:53PM

  How wonderful--
I love to read a "love story"--- Congratulations to you both!

My dear husband is my true prince,-- for over 40 years. Lucky me!

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KATRINAKAT23 5/20/2013 4:39PM

  You guys make a lovely couple. emoticon and many more!!

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MKACILLAS 5/20/2013 3:32PM

    Happy Happy Anniversary Bobbie! Hope you and the hubs have a wonderful day and enjoy yourselves. You deserve it. Love the wedding picture. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DR1939 5/20/2013 1:22PM

    Yesterday the following was on the Source4Women webpage: Couples who stay together tend to say five times as many positive things to each other as negative ones. So go ahead—say something nice!

Congratulations on your 35th! emoticon

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MS.ELENI 5/20/2013 1:01PM

    This is so true.
You isn't WHAT we's that we DO it together...that's what a good marriage boils down to!
You and I are so blessed to have truly happy marriages. I think having 1st bad marriages makes us appreciate our hubby more. I know I do.
A day at Sanibel sounds wonderful. One of my favorite places. have a wonderful day. emoticon

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GRACEOMALLEY 5/20/2013 12:29PM

    I love happy endings!
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HEALTHYGRAMMY49 5/20/2013 12:16PM

    Happy 35th Anniversary emoticon to the Lovebirds. Hope your day is filled with memories to cherish for a lifetime. emoticon Sooooo happy for you both that you found one another! emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/20/2013 11:42AM

    Congratulations on your anniversary! It is so good that you found each other. I'm glad your husband didn't listen to his friend's advice! I am happy for you both. I hope you have a wonderful day no matter how you spend it!

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/20/2013 11:30AM

    Congratulations on your anniversary! It is so good that you found each other. I'm glad your husband didn't listen to his friend's advice! I am happy for you both. I hope you have a wonderful day no matter how you spend it!

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JENSTRESS 5/20/2013 11:16AM

    Happy anniversary. Beautiful photo. You deserve every happiness.

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BIGPAWSUP 5/20/2013 11:05AM

    AWESOME!!! Thanks for sharing your story. Have a GLORIOUS day.

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LYNCHD05 5/20/2013 10:48AM

    What a story but thank goodness there is a happy ending. happy Anniversary and enjoy your day. It sounds awesome.

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OLDERDANDRT 5/20/2013 10:45AM

    Thank goodness you 2 found each other! Happy Anniversary to you both! Hope you have a superior day together!!! (((HUGS)))

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CAROLJEAN64 5/20/2013 10:37AM

    What a wonderful blog to read. My son went through some similar issues with his first wife... his second wife also had a crazy first husband. Now they have been together over 8 years and are so happy.

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