Monday, May 20, 2013
" I love friendly deeds better than fair words." Sir Walter Scott
I love Facebook it helps you stay connected with friends from afar. You can stay connected with long ago classmates ,you can post pictures of your loved ones.
But sometimes it has taken the place of true friendship. It is much easier to just say hi on Facebook than to call write or visit a friend. That is sad.
My father-in -law passed away on Mother's Day. Part of the family was on a trip to the Caribbean for a wedding. We were not able to put him to rest till this Saturday.
My daughter and her best friend were both scheduled for a class trip with the band on Saturday. They were going to New York to see the statue of Liberty and a then a play . They then had time to shop and dine out. They were talking about it for months. Both girls stayed home to be with our family. As my daughter's friend put it you can see New York any time but you can only say goodbye once. That was a kind deed my family will never forget.
Many of my out of towns friends , former classmates, sent condolences on Facebook. That was nice it was also nice to hear from people who had to work or who had their own family commitments. I also got a lot of kind words that I loved hear at spark people you guys are the best.
What touched me the most though was a friend Sue .I used to work with her two years ago. She moved to third shift. I hardly if ever see her. Well ,I was lucky enough to see her Saturday. She was my only friend to show up at the wake. The only one who cared enough . She just didn't give me kind words and sentiments but showed she cared by coming in person and giving me many hugs. She did this after leading a Zumba class showering and dressing beautifully , and racing across town to get their on time.
I was touched beyond words. It is very hard to sit at a wake for someone who had three hundred friends when you have no one. She saved my day. I will be eternally grateful to her. I may even take a Zumba class of hers even though Zumba is not my thing and she teaches a 8 o'clock class on a Saturday .
So remember if you want to touch someone's heart and be remembered forever just don't say words. Send a card, send flowers, but more important send yourself with a hug and then a kind word . You in fact will be remembered forever.