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Walk the Walk

Monday, May 20, 2013

" I love friendly deeds better than fair words." Sir Walter Scott

I love Facebook it helps you stay connected with friends from afar. You can stay connected with long ago classmates ,you can post pictures of your loved ones.

But sometimes it has taken the place of true friendship. It is much easier to just say hi on Facebook than to call write or visit a friend. That is sad.

My father-in -law passed away on Mother's Day. Part of the family was on a trip to the Caribbean for a wedding. We were not able to put him to rest till this Saturday.

My daughter and her best friend were both scheduled for a class trip with the band on Saturday. They were going to New York to see the statue of Liberty and a then a play . They then had time to shop and dine out. They were talking about it for months. Both girls stayed home to be with our family. As my daughter's friend put it you can see New York any time but you can only say goodbye once. That was a kind deed my family will never forget.

Many of my out of towns friends , former classmates, sent condolences on Facebook. That was nice it was also nice to hear from people who had to work or who had their own family commitments. I also got a lot of kind words that I loved hear at spark people you guys are the best.

What touched me the most though was a friend Sue .I used to work with her two years ago. She moved to third shift. I hardly if ever see her. Well ,I was lucky enough to see her Saturday. She was my only friend to show up at the wake. The only one who cared enough . She just didn't give me kind words and sentiments but showed she cared by coming in person and giving me many hugs. She did this after leading a Zumba class showering and dressing beautifully , and racing across town to get their on time.

I was touched beyond words. It is very hard to sit at a wake for someone who had three hundred friends when you have no one. She saved my day. I will be eternally grateful to her. I may even take a Zumba class of hers even though Zumba is not my thing and she teaches a 8 o'clock class on a Saturday .

So remember if you want to touch someone's heart and be remembered forever just don't say words. Send a card, send flowers, but more important send yourself with a hug and then a kind word . You in fact will be remembered forever.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MELAMA210 5/20/2013 9:16PM


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BLITZEN40 5/20/2013 8:31PM

    So glad your friend was able to come to the wake. Sorry for your loss. emoticon

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JESSICABOOTY 5/20/2013 3:44PM

    What a wonderful thing it is to have someone care for you. Sue sounds like a real treasure. All prayers are answered, we just don't know when or how. I think one of yours was answered. Sometimes the only words we can say are "I'm so sorry" and hug the person. Flowers wilt but your witnessing will stay forever.

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JACKIE542 5/20/2013 2:23PM

    So thoughtful of your daughter and her friend. I agree with what your daughters friend said.
So happy your friend Sue came for you, she is one in a million. emoticon

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RACEWELLWON 5/20/2013 12:32PM

    Jo , I am so sorry for the you and your Families Loss of a Father - Your daughter is a gem - its no wonder that she is your and your husbands daughter ! Awesome friend - Big Hugs - Thanks for the visit :) - moving forward !!! I like the dress too !! Hugs K emoticon

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MEXGAL1 5/20/2013 11:34AM

    Nothing like a personal hug and showing concern by attending these things.
Peace be with you.

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GOANNA2 5/20/2013 9:21AM

    You have a wonderful daughter. She and her
friend showed maturity and love for family when
they gave up their trip. Showed that saying goodbye
was more important. So happy that your friend came
after her Zumba class. My condolences to you and your
family. emoticon

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DIANAOR1 5/20/2013 8:45AM

    Well said. I have to agree with you on the facebook thing - you have hundred people sending their love but little do they know that being there is what counts most. Hugs to you and your family!

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    My condolences. Good thoughts. Thank you for sharing them with us.

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BLUEANGELLK 5/20/2013 7:34AM


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MSLZZY 5/20/2013 7:31AM

    I touched my heart to know someone cared enough to show support to you and the rest of the family. Good friends are hard to find but this one is a keeper. How nice that DD and her friend chose to forego a trip to be with you. HUGS!

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LOVESLIFE48 5/20/2013 7:13AM

    I'm so glad you had a friend reach out to you. You are so right, you do remember those acts of kindness. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DARLY55 5/20/2013 7:05AM

    That was so real, so touching and so true. In person cannot be replaced by all the typing in the world. emoticon emoticon to you and your family.

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2BDYNAMIC 5/20/2013 5:59AM

    emoticon to you and so glad she came for you! .......... That is most touching, making the time to show her kindness .......... Will remember, thanks for sharing. May you and your family be comforted.

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NEW-CAZ 5/20/2013 5:53AM

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KELPIE57 5/20/2013 5:52AM

    You put it so well, and brought a tear to my eye.....good for the younsters too!

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