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Losing my job in April pushed me over the edge...

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Just when I thought things could not get any worse since losing my house to Sandy I lost my job at the beginning of April 2 days before my birthday. Happy Birthday Yvonne!

I had blogged months ago about how exhausted I was and that I had no life because of job and the hours I put in. I was not allowed to take a lunch but had to eat at my desk while I worked. Many days I put in a 12 to 14 hour day with no breaks even though others who smoked took smoking breaks. All of you warned me with your advice and some even pointed out that I was being taken advantage of and that my boss was concerned with his welfare and not mine.

Well it happened. I had asked for Good Friday off so I could go down to Alexandria, VA to spend Easter with my Mother and make it a 3 day weekend. We were also going to celebrate my upcoming birthday at the same time. I was told no because we were too busy.

Not sure what happened about being too busy but on the following Wednesday I was laid off . My boss decided it was cheaper (and it is) to send the loans to be processed to the Corporate office in Ohio. They only charge $275.00 to process and close a loan rather than him paying my salary and benefits.

There was no loyalty there on my boss's end. He knew the hours I put in, never took a sick day, and did not take a vacation in 2012 because we were too busy and he said he would make it up to me. Oh he made it up to me alright by me losing my job. To boot he wasn't even decent enough to pay me my 2 weeks vacation due.

He was aware of all I was going through with losing my house to Sandy. How could a person sleep at night after doing something like this? I was the only one in our Branch that worked the 10 days after Sandy hit. The office was out of power for 10 days but I was able to telecommute because where I was staying after Sandy had power. I was staying with my cousin for 15 days after Sandy and her neighborhood is the home of many of the doctors at the local hospital;. Her neighborhood is always one of the 1st ones the power company comes out to restore. I lost my house but still was dedicated, loyal, or stupid enough (you take your pick) to continue to work so other people, our applicants would be able to close their homes.

To say this least I felt decimated and betrayed. I literally checked out of life for the next couple of weeks.

To boot I was not able to close on my SBA loan because I lost my job. You can't close on a loan if your financial conditions have changed. My boss wouldn't give me time off to close because we were too busy. He kept saying in a couple of weeks when we slow down you can close. He wasn't decent enough to say Yvonne I am going to have to lay you off but 1st close on your SBA loan. The SBA loan was a loan from the government that makes up the difference between what your insurance company gives you and what it will cost to rebuild. Not sure what I am going to do now about the money to rebuild.

I really wish God would stop testing me because I am failing miserably. I am at my breaking point. How much is a person expected to endure?

This my friends will be one of the 1st items to try to deal with my counseling sessions that FEMA is setting up for us to deal with life after Sandy. I have so much anger built up inside of me that I have to work through.
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  • KNH771
    I'm sorry that you are suffering so much. Although it doesn't help a whole lot this minute, I know that you're next job is going to be so much better for you. My cousin lost her job after Katrina, and though it was rough, it opened doors for her that she never would have seen otherwise. I pray the same open doors for you.
    1728 days ago
    This is awful Yvonne. You've been through so much and now this. It's great that you will be talking to someone about everything that has been building up inside you. Let it out when you have your sessions. ((((((BIG HUGS))))))
    1739 days ago
  • DS9KIE
    good grief. what a horrible boss. I don't think he can take away your vacation time or overtime cause I think its a law or some thing so check into that. I would try to get unemployment cause that will hurt him and help you.

    I just can't believe with all that "government aide" i always here about with these disasters and you can't get one bit of help.

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    1739 days ago
    I have not been around here much, life gets in the way. I agree with all, if vacation time is documented, you are then due it. If you were hired for a 40 hour week, and worked overtime, you are due it. Get some help to fight through this and fight. I know it is exhausting, but it is necessary.

    I am continuing to keep you in prayer.
    1739 days ago
    I am so very disappointed. I feel unbearable that this all should happen to you. I pray that things get better. The bleakness engulfs us, but I pray you see light. You are so very wonderful. emoticon
    1739 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    Yvonne, would you want to live in DC for awhile. Would that be an option. You seem super cut out for a Human Resources job. I have always admired how good you are with the people here on SP. Maybe you could move in with your Mom for a bit and help her some while regrouping. For some reason I am moved to tell you this so I am.

    Also if you have $15.00 I highly recommend taking Marcus Buckingham's test - Standout. Google it if you need to better understand what kinds of jobs are suited for your strengths.

    I am praying for you girl! Hang in there. Something better is coming and it will be amazing! Be ready for your BLESSING!!

    1739 days ago
    So sorry for all you are going through and have been through.
    I do think you might check into some legal recourse for your employer's failure to pay you your vacation pay among other things. That isn't right. You deserve to be paid what you are owed.
    I would check Legal Aid.

    I will keep you in my thoughts and please keep us posted.

    1739 days ago
    emoticon I can't say anything to make life better for you, it is really lousy and you deserve more.
    1739 days ago
    hugs and yes sometimes I too do not understand God and his tests he has for us.
    my hubby has not had employment for over 5 months. EI has ran out, so we are trusting God and learning to "Let Go and Let God, but so very difficult
    1739 days ago
    1739 days ago
    I cannot for a fraction of one second imagine what you've been going through. Your anger is totally understandable.

    I read this in an email this afternoon and I immediately thought of you:

    "The most beautiful people are the ones who have been through so much yet despite it all, they keep their head up and are still going strong."

    You are a beautiful and strong person! I hope each day for you now is brighter than the day before.


    1739 days ago
    Yvonne, I am sure that you are at least being proactive BUT... talk to the FEMA folks & see if they can add to what some of the people here are posting. I believe that legally you are DUE that vacation pay. I also believe that maybe THEY can help you find someone or some organization that can help you. If not.... maybe the lesson here is let go of the house & the rebuild. Let go, Let GOD and rebuild a quiet life for yourself. Not what you want to hear but like a phoenix you can rise from these ashes. I love you & know that you are an incredibly strong woman. I am here for you. I love you. You are in my prayers.
    1739 days ago

    I can sit here and call that person all kinds of names but it doesn't solve anything.

    You are a smart woman and don't think your stupid who knows what his reasons are, but I will say this he is stupid you have a good case on your hands and really I would sue to be compensated for loss of breaks and vacation that is/was due to you.

    I think that is the best thing you can do for yourself I'm sure you can get your job back because he is wrong but why would you want to go back? It definitely reads discrimination with the smoking and no breaks when others did get theirs.

    You have to take care of yourself and that is how you have to do it. Yes you have been going through trial after trial and I certainly don't think God wants this for you. There is free will in life and I think heartless people is the problem. You had a boss that was just that and he can't take advantage of you and others so you have to emoticon .

    I would get a lawyer and get back what you deserve monetary compensation for your vacation and your breaks if anything that is yours and you deserve that much. Let him pay for you legal expenses because he is at fault.

    Again I'm wishing you the best and praying for you. I've said this before and you are a strong woman - God can't give you what you can't handle as the verse says.

    Lots of love and you can do it.


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    1739 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/19/2013 5:33:50 PM
  • APED7969
    I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this as well. I agree with the others. I would think your boss is legally obliged to pay you for vacation time not taken. Even if you just stand up to him and threaten to follow through with action if he doesn't pay you he probably will. I would like to hope he at least feels guilty for being such an awful person to you and would do the right thing.
    1739 days ago
    Yvonne I think you have a right to seek compensation from this horrible man ...
    I am so,sorry that you have this to contend with .
    You may not feel like it, but you need to see a solicitor . This greedy monster of a employer needs to have the full power of the law thrown at him emoticon emoticon
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    1739 days ago
    I am so very sorry that on top of everything that you lost your job. However, judging from the working conditions, it may be a blessing in disguise. Those long hours with no breaks must be against the law, heck they are even against the law here in the wild West as long as you aren't working on a farm...

    I thought sweat shops were outlawed years ago.

    I sure hope that your FEMA counselors are able to help you a lot.

    How is your eating going? Mine is improving, but not as much as it should.

    Thanks for the friend add, I am adding you to my list.

    1739 days ago
  • LGAR519
    I don't even know what to say. I can't imagine how you have survived all this. You must surely be a strong person. Hang in there and I'll keep praying for you!
    1739 days ago
  • REJ7777
    Get informed. I would think that legally, your boss would have to pay you for the vacation time that you did not take, last year and this year. I know that here in Quebec, it's on a percentage basis. I hope that you find a job where they appreciate you!
    1739 days ago
    Yvonne to say you're getting a raw deal is the understatement of the century, I am SO sorry hun.
    I hope the counseling helps, hang in there emoticon
    1739 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*

    wow you have been through so much!!!
    i don't know how i would handle all that you have so far!!!
    i am sure much of your anger is justified
    with help from the FEMA counselors you will find ways
    to turn things in a more positive way...........
    praying all works out for you soon........
    we are all here for you.......
    blessings and hugs..............lita

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    1739 days ago
    Ugh emoticon This really really sucks. So sorry to read this...sending out good vibes to you so that you find some inner reserves for patience and strength.
    1739 days ago
    First of all, were you hourly? If you were, you have enough to get a lawyer involved, and sue the jerk. No breaks is against the law, and working long hours like you did. Of course if you were salaried, then they pretty much own you. But even so, you should be able to collect 2 weeks vacation. The company I worked for is still in litigations for all lost wages, and vacation pay. And they have been gone for 5 years. I cannot believe after what you have gone through the company can treat you so poorly, and not compensate your needs until you
    can find gainful employment. No severance package?
    1739 days ago
    This is so much for a person to handle and I'm so sorry for what you're going through. I really wish I had some good advice to give on the loan's subject but I have no idea how things work in your country. I really wish things change to the better for you. I'll keep you in my prayers.
    1739 days ago
    Wow! Amazing how you've come through all that, Yvonne! There won't be anything you can't tackle after your ordeal. Hope and pray it all works out in your favour soon. Enough is enough, right? emoticon emoticon
    1739 days ago
  • GABBY308
    I agree that if you're owed vacation your former boss has to pay it. Check with the state labor division. A far as the SBA is concerned would unemplyment count?

    I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I hope a much better job comes along your way and everything else works out for you.

    1739 days ago
    I am so sorry, Yvonne! You said that you wished God would stop testing you...and of course I would have to agree. I don't know what the heck is going on, either. It seems like more than I could handle, for I can only imagine what a sweet, dear, kind and gentle soul like you must be going through! Bless your heart!!!

    Although I know it doesn't help much to hear it, just remember that Job in the Bible lost not only his home, but his family as well. He lost everything. God took it all away. But that's not the point I'm making--not trying to make you feel worse than you already do!--the point I'm making is He restored it all and even more to Job! So try to hang on to that hope that "all will be restored". (But that being said, I know that's easy for "me" to say--I'm not going through what you are going through. My prayer is that this ordeal will end soon and your own life will be restored and you'll have even more than you did before.) Hang in there. We are all praying for you!
    1739 days ago
    I am sorry to hear of all this loss going on! emoticon

    I am going to pray that God opens the doors and shows the path you are meant to be down!

    As Robert H Schuller says, Tough times never last, but tough people do.


    1739 days ago
    i would encourage you to check with whoever deals with employment issues in your state. unpaid vacation time is owed to you. it sounds like your boss is a bully, and someone with a "bigger stick" may help.
    i hope your counseling helps. hang in there!
    1739 days ago
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