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We have an answer - but it isn't good

Friday, May 17, 2013

There is far too much to explain in a blog, but for anyone following the situation with my oldest, as of yesterday, he is no longer employed. He had been with the company for over 6 years. This summer would have marked his 7th. He was associate of he year last year. This is saying quite a lot for someone with autism (and depression, but mostly the autism). After of 4 weeks trying to get an answer, they essentially bribed him to quit. Fired or quitting, either way, he will be denied unemployment. I've been frustrated (to put it mildly) with trying to get him some assistance. It's a battle. It will continue to be so.

I promise to keep eating. Unlike most of my family, I tend to not eat when I reach this level of stress. But I know not eating is no better than eating to fill an emotional/psychological gap.

College boy is home and has a new girl friend. He is super smart. In high school his teachers were constantly telling me he was brilliant. But he is also a bit of a scatter brain. My husband left him a note yesterday to "clean up his stuff". He needs to be told things differently. He needs it to look like this: 1) sort laundry. 2) put laundry in laundry baskets. 3) do the dishes. You get the idea. He needs a list.

The youngest is dealing with all the flux pretty well, but I'll admit I snapped at him a couple f times when that was really not needed. Mom guilt kicked in and when I dragged him to the store (forgot how much milk the college boy drinks), I let him spend $1. Totally mom guilt.

Anyway, that is the update.

Adding to clarify:
While what he did was technically against company policy, it wasn't something like stealing or over-riding a safety. The company knew of his disability and where he was employee of the year just this past August, and had been with the company for 6+ years, the feedback we are getting is that the action they took is not consistent with their handling similar situations with other employees. We have a plan to get him unemployment (he will be initially refused, we'll appeal, the people we were in touch with will go with him to the appeal, and the woman said while she can't guarantee a win, she feels very confident, he will win easily). THe problem is that will take months. We'll have to pick up the COBRA cost initially. Just no two ways about that. But this is a slow going process.
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    Definitely sounds as if the employer did something "fishy"! Good luck with the appeal process. emoticon
    1741 days ago
    1741 days ago
    I agree with above. Do they really have a valid reason for having "fired" him. I don't think "bribing him to quit" would really stand up if he hadn't done something seriously wrong to have been let go.
    I'm so sorry for all your trouble. It has to be very difficult dealing with all of this all at once. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sure your little one will adjust to all the commotion. He's probably very glad to have his big brother back home. As far as the clean up...... well you know where I stand on that.... Good luck!
    But still in a funny way, with all the stress, it's wonderful when the family is all together. Stay close and be strong. I know you will find a way through this. emoticon emoticon
    1741 days ago
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    Stay Connected To Jesus and make the changes a blessing! God Bless YOU! Vic.
    1742 days ago
    in some states that would still get him unemployment benefits. check with a lawyer who deals with wrongful termination issues. most of the time they charge nothing for their first visit, but one thing, get your son to write down or make a video of everything that has been done to him over the last 4 weeks to help him remember details and back up this case
    1742 days ago
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