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A big loss

Friday, May 17, 2013

This week I didn't feel I was as careful as last week, nevertheless the scales said that I lost one kg or 2.2lb. I won't argue and will take whatever loss I achieve. I've taken to wearing my tight jeans so I'm reminded that I want to feel comfortable; it's an incentive to eat less.

My mindfulness based stress reduction MBSR course is going well, thanks to the reading material and the cds. I don't get much out of the classes because there is too much emphasis on the meditation and less on the teachings. I suppose people need that, as not many of them are practicing at home and I am, but I'd like it to be more instructive as well. Another problem is that the instructor is also speaking in his second language (as i am) and his accent together with my hearing problems are an obstacle.
I'm starting to feel that if I don't do some kind of mindfulness meditation a day, I sense that something is missing.

Mother’s days went well in spite of a v poisonous email from my mum. I spent most of the day doing a huge slide show of my MIL that passed away last July and then I took DH out for dinner to a new Indian and we watched it in the tablet. I thought that would help him but his drinking still worries me. I thought I might go to al-anon meetings as I think I'm doing the opposite of what I should be doing, by getting upset about his inability to cut down.
It's not a huge amount by Australian standards (5 std drinks) but it's every day and it shows: he falls asleep v early and has difficulty thinking so it's like being with a corpse after dinner. I resent the fact that most women do everything to fight back the ageing process and men let themselves go as if it was nothing. He is 10 years older than me and he should be doing everything he can to remain as young and healthy as possible, not destroying his brain even more with alcohol.

We have a lot of work and I have a new helper and she’s good but I don't like her. What a problem, no fault on how she works, just an intuitive dislike. This makes working a bit stressful: I have to make sure she doesn't notice this because it's completely unfounded.

On Sunday I'm going to the open art studios at Mt Tamborine with two of my girl friends all day, can't wait to get away with other females and share the art and the landscape.

Life is good!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
RUTHXG 5/25/2013 2:19PM

    Claudia, thanks for stopping by my blog with your encouraging words! I'm so sorry I've missed your recent posts--like your other friend says here, I had no idea that I had failed to click on an e-mail letting me know that you had blogged.

So happy for your kilo loss, & for the mindfulness practice that is helping you stay peaceful. Also I would love to hear about the studio day--that sounds lovely!

As for your husband, I do think that much drinking is unhealthy; of course you can't control him, but I imagine AlAnon can help you cope, & hopefully confront, in the best way.

How well I know about unfounded dislikes! Sometimes I can get past them by praying for the person I dislike--it helps me see his or her good qualities. I know that's not your way, but maybe you could decide on a short phrase to repeat silently when you feel irritated with her. Like "I wish ____ to be well & thriving." Then you become emotionally invested in her well-being. emoticon

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WANDERINONE 5/21/2013 8:27PM

    Life means you have to keep trying different stuff to get different results than you always have gotten. I have had intuitive dislike of a person a few times, it is uncanny and can be difficult to get past it and be able to Like the person.

Oh, and I got unsubscribed from your blogs. I don't ever remember getting an email that I supposedly ignored......DUH!! I am still around daily on SP. Glad you are losing a few KG. I'd take that too!! Keep up the good work. Change can bring good results too.

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GRNDMOM43 5/18/2013 12:26PM

    emoticon emoticon AlAnon might be agreat help for you and give you the support you need at this time. emoticon

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GOANNA2 5/17/2013 3:45AM

    Congratulations on the weight loss Claudia.
I am sorry that your husband's drinking is a
worry for you. Enjoy your day at Tamborine.
I was up there for a wedding last Saturday
and even though it was raining, it was still so
beautiful up there. Enjoy your time with your
friends. About the mindfulness, I went to Griffith
and took a mindfulness course a few years back
and I really enjoyed it. Maybe get a hold of the
School of Psychology and ask if they still have
mindfulness courses.
I'm sorry about the letter from your mother. Just
try and not dwell on that. Say to yourself "I am OK".
Have a great weekend. emoticon

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WENDYJM4 5/17/2013 3:19AM

    emoticon on the weight loss Claudia

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SUSIEPH1 5/17/2013 3:16AM

Well done on the weight loss Claudia .. Doing well ..
I am sorry your hubby's drinking is such a problem .. Perhaps he thinks it is doing him good .. Who knows what goes on in a mans mind Lol xx
Just look after yourself my friend ...Hugs and Love Susie emoticon emoticon

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WEARINGTHIN 5/17/2013 3:08AM

    Sorry you have to deal with hubby's drinking problem. That was always a big issue with me over my dad. I drink, but very moderately in comparison to him. It was sort of problematic growing up with it. Nice that you have some good friends. Best wishes to you, Glenn

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