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Emotions Running Rampant

Thursday, May 16, 2013

It's been quite the month. My in-laws sold their farm, they've been here most of their married life, 54+ years. They have-----had--- the place across the road from ours. The emotions of them downsizing and moving to a smaller place surprised me. I thought I'd be the "strong one" for this change, but have spent quite a bit of time crying. It's hard to think of them growing older and having to make this move.
Because they lived so close to us and we farmed together for years, we have so many happy memories.
Riding the tractor with my then boyfriend while he plowed. Teaching our son to hit a baseball on their side lawn, our daughter pushing her doll stroller all over the farm, running along side of both of them holding onto the seat of a bicycle, my husband proposing to me down by the lake.
When my husband was in high school, they built a dam in the seep and made a small lake there. There is an old Cottonwood tree leaning on its side that I was sitting on when he bent the knee and asked me to marry him.
The second year we were married, we spent hours and hours picking rocks out of the fields and hauling them to this spot to make a picnic area with stone benches and a fireplace. We took the camera down there Sunday evening at sunset to snap a few photos and shed a few tears. It was so hard thinking we'd not see that spot again.
I know that change is a part of life, but this was a tough one.
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NORMAGAIL2 5/24/2013 9:55PM

    Cindy,

My husband and I are in a very similar place with my 85-year old mother-in-law, as she is progressing with memory issues. Making it worse is the emotional stages that she is going through and the anger that she directs at my husband, her only child. It is difficult to see people that we love experience such profound losses! Even though we, as Christians, know that this earth is a temporary home for us, the changes that bring about losses are difficult. What a beautiful spot that your family got to enjoy - what great memories you have! This life is so bittersweet! Hang in there!

Gail

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/23/2013 4:21AM

    Change can be very difficult. You will always have your memories and you can always keep them close to your heart. Its' difficult and much easier said than done. I wish you and your family the best. emoticon

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SHAUNAD30 5/20/2013 2:50PM

    So sorry to hear about the land being sold. I can understand how cherished those memories are. Although my husband and I don't live next door to my in-laws, we do live on a family farm. It's devastating to think what could happen if the land ever belonged to someone outside of the family. However, cherish your memories, because the land is all God's anyway. :)

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CAMEOSUN 5/20/2013 4:12AM

  Heading down the same road...father-in-law is 89. He's barely holding on...to life.

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08ESCAPE 5/18/2013 9:00AM

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STITCH4EVER 5/17/2013 3:58PM

    I REMEMBER WHEN MY IN-LAWS HAD TO SELL THEIR FARM TOO. DAD GOT CANCER AND WAS AFRAID MOM CULDN'T HANDLE THINGS THERE ALONE ANY MORE SO THEY MOVED INTO TOWN AND THE FARM WENT TO SOMEONE WE KNEW. BUT IT ISN'T THE SAME. I HAD ALWAYS PLANNED TO HAVE MY ASHES SCATTERED UNDER THE BIG PINE TREE NEXT TO THE GARAGE. THAT'S WHERE DAD'S ASHES ARE - WITH ALL THE BUNNIES AND CHIPMUNKS. I LOVED THAT SPOT. BUT NOW SOMEONE ELSE OWNS IT AND IT'S LIKE WE LOST DAD ALL OVER AGAIN.

YOUR BLOG, ALTHOUGH SAD, WAS ALSO BEAUTIFUL. I COULD PICTURE EVERY SINGLE THING YOU WROTE ABOUT AS IF I WERE THERE. MY HEART HURTS FOR YOU. SO NOW YOU HAVE A CHALLENGE. YOU NEED TO FIND A NEW PLACE TO MAKE SPECIAL FOR YOU AND YOUR OWN FAMILY. THINK ABOUT IT. AND MAKE IT SOMEWHERE THAT YOU CAN NEVER LOSE.
ERIN

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1EMMA2011 5/17/2013 10:32AM

    It's difficult when life changes in this way. It takes a while to heal. You are doing all the right things. Honoring your memories and capturing them is very important. Feeling your feelings and working through them the way you are is the right thing to do. I feel proud of you.

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SPARKLISE 5/17/2013 8:01AM

    Changes are so hard, but you have such great memories. emoticon

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NILLAPEPSI 5/17/2013 7:56AM

    emoticon Beautiful memories that you will cherish forever.

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REFFIE1 5/16/2013 4:08PM

    Aaah, that is so sweet, all those special memories connected to the land and your in-laws. It is hard to see parents growing older. There are so many losses that come with aging - friends, where you live, the things you enjoy doing and can't physically do. It is very hard on the aged and those who care for them. I know exactly the feeling watching my mom grow older. She is still able to stay in her condo but we work hard to make it work for her.

Your in-laws certainly lucked out having had such a caring, loving, person in their family. emoticon

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