Thursday, May 16, 2013
Ok so when DH and I were dating he indicated that he preferred "spartan living" as he called it. So now that we have been married 6 years this weekend I have had plenty of time to see just how this works...and it DOESN'T!!!! I admit I am not the best at keeping things picked up all the time...BUT REALLY...I am better at this than he is!
He keeps bringing more things into this small house, he isn't keeping his things picked up OR organized in such a way that they can be kept picked up. He has more clothes than we have space for, he has to have everything right where it is convenient for him, even if it makes it sloppy in the living room and bedroom. I am so tired of the sloppy looking rooms.
I went out to work on rock removal and now I am just pissed off even more! I had to move a couple things to get to the wheel barrow...no problem...moved the tarp off the wheel barrow and...low and behold...it was filled with all his tools!!! In the EIGHT years we have been in this house he has never taken the time to organize the back garage and when he has cleaned off the work bench, it has simply become the dumping ground for more crap...which never gets cleaned up. So I realize that since we will be using these tools again to finish the deck, I am just so frustrated by all the years of NON-SPARTAN LIVING!!!
Like my craft/sewing room...another dumping ground any time we have company over for all the things he doesn't want to find a home for, or put away at the moment...his office is the same way...and though I know it frustrates him, I also don't see him spending much time trying to keep things picked up once they are cleaned up. So anytime I want to work on a project I have to clean the space first. By the time I am done cleaning I have no energy or desire to work on the project.
And now he works 2 full time jobs and has no time for anything...let alone time to spend with me and the kids. SO while I wish he would spend time cleaning these things up...just keeping the regular things clean and picked up would be nice so that I don't have to clean up after him as well as both boys!!!!!
We are both stressed and I really don't want to take out this frustration on him, or bring up the issue, but it has to be addressed at some point...and soon!
I really don't expect my SP friends to read through this whole thing, but I needed to get it off my chest before i took it out on the boys.