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Decisions...


Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Ugh! I hate when things happen that involve my family who don't speak to me. Last night, I got a call from the one aunt who I am still close to. She is my mother's sister. She wanted to let me know that my sister had called my cousin to tell her that my aunt passed away. The aunt who passed away is my dad's sister. I haven't seen her for about 7 years. I saw her at my mother's funeral, but she said nothing to me. I talked to her twice since my mother passed away, but she more or less blew me off. Her kids never invited us to anything they have had as a family. My cousin didn't even invite me to her wedding. She invited my mother and my sisters and brother, but not me or my husband.

I know my Aunt expects me to go to the funeral, but I just have no desire to. I felt nothing when I heard she died. I feel nothing for any of them. The only thing that bothers me is how things will "look" to others. For all anybody knows, I don't even know about this. If Shirley hadn't called, I wouldn't have a clue. None of my cousins or my siblings called. I guess they really do what me out of the family.

I can't be a hypocrite. None of these people mean anything to me. They have made it clear over the years that I mean nothing to them either so I have to just stop stressing about it. It bothered me a lot in my aunt's obituary none of her siblings were mentioned. Not my dad or my other aunts. I think that is bad form.

Oh well...once again it proves you can't pick your family only your friends.

On another note, I did take Celebrex for my back and it really helped. My UC doc said I can take it with the UC. I think you just need to break the pain cycle. I heard back from the epidural doc and I am going for the second one on Tuesday. He thinks also that my back is just radiating pain from my neck. I really hope the second one works. The first one really helped my neck and shoulders. I guess the medication didn't go far enough down for my back.
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FLORIDASUN 5/17/2013 10:10AM

    Drama...HATE it! I'd definitely do as your heart tells you. Why would you go there just to be treated miserably once again. I do agree with JustME if your aunt had called you for support I'd do the best I could to be there for her. Maybe you could meet her after, or sit in the back row with her and make a fast exit.

I'm appalled at how badly your family treats you...just appalled. It shouldn't be that way in this world...really it shouldn't! As an only child I've often wondered what it would be like having siblings...your family reminds me that I might be better off as an 'only lonely' after all. emoticon

I have plenty of girlfriends and I call them my 'chosen' sistas...I also have lots of my wonderful friends here in Spark kingdom...I call them my 'sparkling' sistas!

We are so blessed to have this wonderful group of women around us! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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PATTYKLAVER 5/17/2013 7:11AM

    I am glad you are getting some relief for your back. Don't let other people bother you when they so obviously don't care.

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JUSTME29 5/16/2013 8:48AM

    I'm glad the meds helped and that the epidural helped your neck - just sorry that you have to go in for a second one. Hopefully this one will make all the difference.

The only person (aside from yourself and your nuclear family) that you need to take into consideration here is your one aunt that you are still close to. If she wants/needs the support at the funeral then go for her sake. If she has other support or otherwise doesn't need you there then don't go. I'm sure she will understand. So what if you give "them" one more thing to talk about - at this point their conversations are no longer your concern. They didn't bother to tell you about your other aunt's death or funeral so clearly they don't expect you to attend either.

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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 5/16/2013 7:55AM

    Glad you are feeling better, sorry about your family issues, personally I would not go, but that is me, but do what is right for you!!

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CAPECODBABE 5/16/2013 5:32AM

    I'm glad you are feeling better.
As for the funeral, just listen to your heart. emoticon

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SEPTEMBERSPIRIT 5/16/2013 4:43AM

    I think you should do what YOU feel comfortable doing. I can completely relate to how detached you feel and how you don't want to play the hypocrite. Who cares what anybody things - it's how you feel that matters.

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JAZZEJR 5/15/2013 10:53PM

    You know what you want to do; just do it. Your opinion of yourself is the one that counts. There is a saying--We would stop worrying about what other people think about us if we knew how seldom they did.

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IAMBIZI 5/15/2013 10:26PM

    I am sorry for the family drama. I think that you can go with your gut here and not feel bad about not going.
sorry that things aren't different, that is just the way it is.
good luck iwth the second epi!
bizi

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LYNCHD05 5/15/2013 9:41PM

    Tis is such N awful family story. I can understand how you feel and how you do not want to go. Really, what is the point. You will have to think about this and decide what feels right to you.
Glad to,hear the back is getting better.

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