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Reflections on "Okay With What Is"

Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Sometimes it doesn't matter how hard we try, we go backwards instead of forward...
That's the way I feel as of late... I've had a lot of stiffness, a lot of pain. And a LOT of weight gain. Cymbalta was NOT a good choice for me. The doctor tried, and at first we thought it would work. SO, off of it I came... now to deal with the damage.

Okay With What Is

When you find it difficult to move forward, that’s okay. Allow it to be what it is, and allow yourself to do what you can. (The added weight makes me hurt more, the more I hurt, the less I exercise, the more weight adds up. Cycle must stop... my ability to eat mindfully has returned. I have still bowled.)

When you feel disappointed, let it be okay. Feel the disappointment, and then you can choose to let it go and to move beyond it. ( after being off the Cymbalta a month now, the weight is not moving, and the pain is difficult... and I am eating well! ARG!)

Don’t waste your energy denying what has happened or getting yourself upset about it. Instead, put your energy to positive use by finding, and working to fulfill, the best possibilities. (I joined a 10 minute challenge. It motivated me. I ordered the Spark Solution book(it still hasn't arrived). I joined Spark Coach. I'm following my Spark plan until the book arrives.)

There’s no good reason to spend a lot of time complaining about what got you into a difficult situation. That merely keeps you stuck where you are.( I went to Rheumy doctor, told him what is going on, and he had me start a new med.)

The first step in moving forward is to stop looking backwards. Stop wishing that things had been different and start working to make things a whole lot better. (no more mention of "how and why" I got to here... )

Be okay with what is, and be positive and creative in making good things from it. Remind yourself that each situation is a starting point from which you can work to create meaningful value. (My starting point is the Spark Solution, the new med worked last night, and I am Sparking THIS day!)

— Ralph Marston

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DO I "feel" better? Bet your sweet bippy I do! LOL!
Forward and onward!

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    This is a very good blog. What you say is so true and an inspiration to me. Your positive attitude and strong faith will continue to guide and motivate you. I hope your new med will continue to help you. I wish you the best.
    1520 days ago
    Love this blog, and Ralphie does know his stuff. I have a mean tendency to look backward, and all I see is "BUT", and BUTT!! LOL

    It's strange how you say the pain is worse the bigger you get. Maybe I was super, UBER, depressed, but when I was fatter - all 54 pounds fatter - I hurt less. I am not sure why that is, but my doc thinks it's because the compression on my discs in my spine was cutting off the nerve response. How scary does THAT sound.

    But I keep telling him that I wish I were in less pain, but skinner. He laughs... he's Italian and laughs or growls. Those are my only 2 choices, so I had better be glad he didn't growl! LOL

    Have missed you and I am so glad I stopped by!
    1535 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Sorry to hear you have been struggling, but that is good news your rheumy is responsive and acts quickly to change things for you. Happy to hear its doing better for you.. Good luck with the Spark Solution and Spark Coach. You will get more detailed attention and accountability with it, so it should help you.
    I like the way you put what you are doing in response to your Ralph Marston quotes. Its great you have found such inspiration from him, he seems to have an endless supply of wisdom and advice on how to live life to its fullest!
    1536 days ago
    keep your chin up Leah and put one foot in front of the other. You'll get there eventually. Enjoy the journey! Hugs.
    1536 days ago
    What a wonderful reflection exercise you modeled and shared! Thank you for your Sparkful example. My sweet bippy says your are doing great!
    1536 days ago
  • KITT52
    good advice thanks for sharing...

    1536 days ago
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