Hi Spark! Long time no see!
My father passed away last Saturday morning, and took his last breath at home, surrounded by his wife of 60 years and 4 of his 5 children. Terrence and I were at a campground 20 miles away, but when we got the call we drove over immediately.
For two weeks my sister, two of my brothers and my husband and I helped care for my dad who by then was confined to a hospital bed. Then last week my other brother was able to come and it was the whole family. TC was wonderful with my dad; his own father left the family when he was 12 and he's often said he was closer to my father than to his own. I love that man!
We really have never been a particularly close family so this was really a wonderful, amazing and special time. We all worked together to lessen the burden on my mother and to care for Dad. He expressed his appreciation for our care and was delighted that we were all there to be with him. It was like it was his last act; by his death we were able to draw much closer as a family. We all felt it, and we all talked about it.
My daughter and her husband came from Massachusetts while Dad was still lucid so he was able to meet his baby great granddaughter. A week before he died he had the typical "surge" of energy and called all of us into the den, one by one, for a private talk. (Mostly it was to tell each of us what we needed to do to straighten out our lives -- vintage Dad!) It was the last day he would talk.
Anyway, the funeral is Thursday, graveside service on Friday, and TC and I will be leaving Michigan on Saturday for some hiking in Shenandoah National Park. It will be three weeks that we've been here.
So how've I been doing?
Well, exercise has gone out the window for nearly three weeks. We've been getting to my mom's house early and leaving at dark. Or the weather hasn't cooperated. My eating has been hit-or-miss, pretty good at my mom's house but not so good when we get back to the trailer. I've been drinking too much wine, too.
But this morning I feel great and ready to get back to some semblance of normalcy. We are free this morning, the weather is beautiful, and we've got a 4-mile loop mapped out on the country roads around the campground. As soon as I'm done with this blog we are going to get in a good walk!
We'll be going to Panera for dinner with TC's brother and sister tonight and I've already looked up their online menu. I think I'll have the chicken Caesar salad. Anybody have another recommendation?
So I'm feeling good. I've let my subscriptions to your blogs lapse, but I'll be picking them up again probably next week, once the funeral and family time is behind us.
Thanks to all of you at Spark for your thoughts and prayers. It's hard to be too sad -- Dad lived 85 years and he often said he did everything in life he wanted to. I hope this is something we can all say at the end of our lives!