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Live and let love. I am proud to be a Minnesotan today.


Monday, May 13, 2013

This blog is going to be a bit controversial. I am not posting it to start an argument or to put down anyone else. My beliefs are my own and you are welcome to yours; I just hope that we can agree to disagree and have respect for each other. That being said, I am posting this blog from a state of love, respect, and appreciation. Any responses that are disrespectful or demeaning will be deleted. Responses that are opposite of my views but are respectful are okay.

Now that I've gotten the disclaimer out of the way, here is what I want to talk about.







Live and let love. This is what I believe. If someone is coming from a place of love and respect then they will wish the best for others, even if they disagree with them. If a person is coming from a place of hate and prejudice, they will expect that their views should define others' lives and wish horribleness on anyone who disagrees. We can disagree on others' actions while still wishing the best for them.

I believe women deserve the same rights as men. I believe rights shouldn't be determined by skin color. I believe disabled & differently-abled people should be allowed fair chances to succeed just as 'normal' people. I believe GLBTQ people should be allowed the same rights as straight people. I believe in civil rights. We don't choose the sex we're born with. We don't choose our race. We don't choose how our well our bodies will work or what our natural talents will be. We don't choose what traits we're naturally attracted to, whether it's legs, chest, abs, butt, eyes, or whether they're male/female.

Today, I am proud to be a Minnesotan. On Thursday, the MN House approved a Gay Marriage bill. Today, the MN Senate approve the bill. The governor will sign it tomorrow at 5 pm. Starting August 1st, 2013, gay marriage will be legal in Minnesota. We will be the 12th state to legalize gay marriage and the 1st in the midwest to do so with legislation instead of the courts.

If you have ever asked a gay person "when did you choose to be gay," try asking yourself "when did I choose to be straight?" Unlike most people, due to unique experiences in my life, I have spent a lot of time asking myself about my sexuality. I see beauty in many types of people and I don't like to immediately exclude anyone from my definition of 'attractive' due to sex, race, abilities, etc. I want someone to love who loves me, so I need to be open to love. I want to find a man to love; I also want to believe in the love of everyone.

There is so much I could say on this topic but I will leave it here. I wanted to express my joy at the success of this bill and I have done so. I hope many others are joining me in celebration and those who are against this bill will find peace and acceptance as they experience no harmful effects of this legislation.
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MISSCUS 5/21/2013 7:56PM

    Yay for MN. Great blog. Then, there is always the Golden Rule. That about covers it all. I learned acceptances of anything or anyone that seemed different from a young age. I feel at peace with my accepting nature. Life would not be as enjoyable or as interesting if everything and everyone was the same etc etc etc.......

I don't know how, but I missed your last couple blogs. I must go reset my account settings I guess...
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SHERRYGAYL 5/17/2013 7:54AM

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My sexual preference is love and respect.

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MOM2ACAT 5/14/2013 5:39PM

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TAYGRL 5/14/2013 11:35AM

    I, too, am VERY proud of Minnesota. And for every state that passes legislation that frankly should not even be in question, my "true-blue" state of CA looks more and more hypocritical.

Congrats Minnesota! You done our nation proud. Twelve down only 38 more to go unless the SCOTUS decides to get their heads outta their you-know-whats and settle what should have been settled a LONG time ago!

Thanks for sharing! Peace out!

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SAMZA83 5/14/2013 5:55AM

    emoticon I am not from Minnesota but spent my undergraduate years there and the state has always had a wonderful progressive undercurrent. I am straight but I think everyone has the right to live/love the way that they intrinsically know how to. I hope that as a country we aren't too far off from seeing gay marriage legal everywhere. The whole debate over this is going to look as silly 50 years from now as the bans on interracial marriage do today! (As spoken by a child from an interracial marriage :) )

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EVWINGS 5/13/2013 11:56PM

    What a beautiful blog! I thank you for writing it and having the courage to share what are not always popular feelings. This is one of the better things to come out of MN in a long time. Like you, this is my opinion only!! To me, the saddest thing is that who we are "permitted" to love has to be legislated and not just accepted.

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JAMER123 5/13/2013 11:33PM

    We can really stand up and be proud of our state. Even though it took some time to get it through all of Congress, it was shown to be respectful to each and every one of our beliefs, no matter what. I am one that, I hope, shows respect to all and only wants the same from others! Thanks for a great blog!!
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DRAGONCHILDE 5/13/2013 10:42PM

    I'm very proud for you. I'm proud of you for having the courage to speak out. I'm proud to call you SparkFriend!

I too have struggled with sexuality, and while I've settled on a non-binary label, I still live on a heterosexual monogamous marriage.

It is such a simple answer for me. I don't care what your religious beliefs are. you have no right to impose them on anyone else. All arguments against it are religious in nature... and I don't want any Jews telling me I can't eat pork, nor Buddhists telling me I can't eat any meat.

I respect their right, they respect mine. And we should ALL do the same when it comes to love!

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RISINGBLUESTAR 5/13/2013 9:30PM

    This is a great blog!! I always felt that we are here on this earth to help others, to help each other. We are not here to judge or harm anyone. I say this as a person who believes in God. I mention that because you may just get the "religious" people who aren't tolerant making intolerant comments. I don't understand how people can bring religion into marriage when it says in the first amendment of the constitution that you cannot force religion onto anyone & you cannot stop people from gathering to worship. It's right there printed along with the blurb about freedom of speech.

People are so much more than the color of their skin, or their weight or who they like. Those things may be part of people but they do NOT DEFINE people!

When I was at a comedy show, one of the comedians said: "Doesn't everyone realize that we're all stuck with each other on a big blue and green ball and there is nothing we can do about it?!" We're all here together so why not treat each other with respect and be accepting.

I also tell people that they don't necessarily have to agree with someone's life but
at the very least, respect them. I also ask people when did you choose to be straight and the answer they always give me is that they have been straight since they were born. Nobody chooses their orientation and it's a shame that there are people out there who shame people for just being who they are.

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EWL978 5/13/2013 9:10PM

    YES!!!! I saw this on today's news and thought....another bunch of folks with not only brains but also with heart!! Way to go!! And you have every right to be proud.

After that, don't you start thinking "it's about time!!?


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MURRAYGOLD 5/13/2013 9:05PM

    A proud day indeed. Hope the day isn't too far away when every state in this country recognizes the right to love.

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