Monday, May 13, 2013
Probably because I recently wrote about competitive vs. fun sports for kids, I was especially attentive to attitude as I sat at our grandson’s soccer game.
DGS #5 is quite talented. He was recruited for a travel team (under 12) as soon as he turned 10. DD#2 elected to have him stay with the rec league, but that had problems too. After he scored a few goals, he would be benched so the game would remain competitive. Sometimes that could happen within 10 minutes and he wouldn’t even get the minimum playing minutes that rec teams were known for.
Long ago two of our three children were involved in competitive sports and 2 competed in SERIOUS piano competition. (DD#2 did both) When waiting for the awards, more than anything, I wanted my kids (or their team) to win something. It’s the same way with me. I want to win something, whether at a race or in the morning when I get on the scale. I want my effort to be validated somehow.
Fortunately that feeling passes quickly. When getting on with my day, going out for lunch after a game or a race or just signing on to SP after my morning weigh-in, that temporary win (or loss) isn’t so important.
After a piano competition long ago, my 8 year old daughter told me that “it doesn’t matter if you win or lose because you have to do it all again anyway.” She meant practice and compete.
That was a very perceptive attitude for a kid. This morning my scale showed an upward leap. Since I weigh every day, I know this isn’t a big deal, just the result of a lunch of Greek food and dinner at a Mexican restaurant. It isn’t often that I eat out twice in the same day.
Whether my scale is being friendly or not (win or lose), I have to “do it all again” anyway if I want to maintain a healthy, active lifestyle.
Regarding DGS#5 – The coach had a perfect solution. After DGS scored 2-4 goals, he could still play but he had to only pass the ball to a teammate. If there was no one around then he could take a shot himself as long as he did it with his left foot. The result was improvement in his all around skills and a better, more competitive game for all.
There’s a difference between short term and long term wins. I’m in this for the long term.