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Moving from New Zealand to America---advice???

Monday, May 13, 2013

I've been here in New Zealand for nearly 8 years. Long story short I left America when I was 22 to come here for a year, met a New Zealander, fell in love, got married and now will ring in 30 years old here in good ol' kiwi-land. My husband and I are planning to move back to America though in the next year or so and I need some advice, some thoughts, anything because I am terrified.

We have a pretty comfy little life here. Good jobs, nice home, the country has a public health care system so we are taken care of, great friends, beautiful city, etc. We are moving stateside to be closer to my family. My father is 74...he is healthy but I want to spend as much time with him as I can. My mom is younger but I'm her only child and it means a lot to spend time with her too. So....

Back to being terrified. I am panicked. I don't know what to do. I'm scared of what was once my home. The things that are happening over there....the shootings, bombings, the lack of help when things go wrong for people, the cost to live, the lack of jobs. Is there anything NOT to be worried about? I am just hearing the worst things!!! I am so scared that we are going to come over to the states and not be able to get work or get cancer and be told that our insurers don't cover that or not even be able to AFFORD health care or get shot or something AWFUL!

Please can someone tell me if my worries are unfounded. Please can someone over there tell me what to expect. During this weight loss journey that stress of this move is a constant for me and it keeps me up at night. What if I come back to the states and cannot control my eating in the country known world-wide for its obesity epidemic???

Does anyone have a thought for me? I hope, hope, hope to hear from someone. emoticon
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    I know this blog was written several months ago but I just stumbled upon it and am curious how you are doing. I have a son who moved from the States to NZ three years ago when he married a Kiwi. He love it there but I know they plan someday to move back here. Like I said I'm curious if you are here yet and if so how you're doing. I hope all is well! :) emoticon

    1535 days ago
    Sorry so late to your blog! There are certainly "challenges" to living in America, but it really depends on where you live. Might you be returning to upstate NY? Jobs will definitely be the most formidable front! A book I can highly recommend to taking stock of yourselves and marketing your skills in the best possible way: What Color Is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles. Work with that book...there is a fair amount of journaling and writing exercises designed to get the most from it.

    Kudos to your successes while traveling...well done! :-)

    1735 days ago
    Gee, after reading Maureen's response (Armonia), I don't have a lot to add...

    We travel a lot, but we live here because we love it. It won't take you long before you re-assimilate here.

    The Chamber of Commerce where you are planning to move to can also be of help. If you want to just chat or vent you are welcome to email me.
    1743 days ago
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    I believe you are listening to the wrong people. News doesn't always portray what is good, only what is bad. Where do your parents live? Try to avoid inner cities when looking for a place to live. I have lived outside of Chicago for over 30 years, and have never been a victim of a violent crime. Start looking for a job while you are still in New Zealand. Check companies websites. Be positive! Welcome back! WE missed you here, and I am sure your parents will be ecstatic to have you back! emoticon
    1744 days ago
    That was just such awesome advice I have very little to add. I would say that of course only the bad news makes it around the world, right? The fact that most Americans are very safe isn't news worthy so you don't hear about that. As long as you are employed, you should have decent health coverage. And the health care reform that is being put in place now will help with people who don't have coverage through employers.

    Talk to your family members for support and advice. You lived in the US until 8 years ago, right? It's not like you've never lived here. Do you still have friends here? Talk to them about jobs and where to live. They may be able to help with some of your fears as well.

    Keep us posted on your progress!!!!!
    1744 days ago
    I don't think you are at risk of being shot. I lived in a low-rent district in Brooklyn, NYC and NEVER felt scared. If you aren't selling drugs, then don't worry about. Maybe you should look for areas with less crime. You can look those things up online.

    If you get a job with "term" insurance, your hypothetical cancer would be covered, even if you had it before you started the job. Look into how the US system works. You can certainly get the care you need as long as you are in the middle class arena or even the educated lower class. It the people with a long history of impoverishment that are most risk here in the USA. With new regulations on health care (Obamacare), you will be required to have insurance, and so you will be covered perhaps excluding your pre-existing conditions. But ALWAYS read the fine print!

    Jobs is tough. You and you husband should make a LONG list of your skills and ambitions. Decide what kinds of jobs you would like to work and what you can afford. A lot of job titles are VERY different in the US than other countries. You can look at,,, and to become familiar with the job market. You will need to translate you skills and experience into the US lingo. Because unemployment is so high, networking is a huge tool. Don't be afraid to have you parents announce at their church, if they have one, that you are both looking. Send out your resume (not CV, noone uses a CV int he US) to professional organizations in your field. You might consider going back to school for a certification in order to make contacts and beef up you US experience. Why not tap into some Spark connections? Join the team that's in the region that you are moving to and start getting to know people. Then you can meet up with some when you are in the states.

    Again, if you are reasonably well educated, responsible, and do the leg work, you will be fine. As long as you aren't selling drugs or participating in gang activity, it's very unlikely that you'll experience any violence.

    I'm sure if you shared what kinds of jobs you do, what level you are in your career, and what area of the country you were going to, there would be some more specific advice people could give you. For example, moving to South Central LA is a lot more risky for drive-by shootings than American Falls, Idaho.

    1744 days ago
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