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A Special Blessing for Mothers Day

Sunday, May 12, 2013

Good Afternoon Friends,

Today is Mothers Day. After my own Mother passed away in 1987, I would privately cry every Mothers Day and just be happy once the day was over. I did however, have the good grace to put on an act for the sake of my own family, that I was enjoying my special day, but inwardly, just wishing the day would pass quickly. My Mother's final Mothers Day was very bittersweet. She was in the hospital and her request was to have a special dinner with my Dad. She was in intensive care, so a lot of strings had to be pulled for her dream to come true. Finally, with the approval of hospital administration, my Dad went to her favorite restaurant and picked up her favorite meal for the two of them and took it to the hospital. My family and my brother and his family was allowed in for a morning visit and then had to leave so that she and my Dad could have their special time. She ate little, but was very happy and she lay and held hands with my Dad until he was asked to leave so that she could rest. We went back for the evening visiting and the nurse came to the door of ICU and had to tell us that my Mother had just suffered a severe stroke. All I could think of was the cruel injustice of this happening on her favorite day of the year. She passed away a few months later and time moved on but I never let go of that memory or the anger that I felt because she suffered that stroke on Mothers Day, of all days.

This year was different for me. I began to feel thankful that she had her very special time. After all, the stroke didn't happen until early evening, so she was content and happy. I also started to think about something that she had told me a few years before she left us, "Life is for the living and it is short, so enjoy every day." How right she was. Today I have enjoyed my Mothers Day immensely. I am so thankful that God gave her that fateful day and I am thankful that He has given me this day with my family.

I know this blog is a little different from what I normally share, but I count my blessings every single day and today I am listing Mothers Day at the very top of my list.

Happy Mothers Day to all of you!

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    What a beautiful blog, Thank you so much for sharing your story. emoticon
    1567 days ago
    I am so glad you now have a different perception of Mother's Day, bless you emoticon
    1712 days ago
    Bittersweet memories for sure. My mom died the day inbetween my birthday and my youngest sister's so my birthday is always a marker to her loss. I may have to rethink my feelings and be glad I was blessed with her calm and happy spirit! HUGS!
    1713 days ago
    So glad you were able to come to terms with your loss and enjoy your day. My mother is still alive but my father has been gone for 15 years. I know you never stop missing them and the grief never really goes away but it does somehow lose it's sharpest edge. Then you can put aside the regrets and resentments and find joy in all the beautiful memories.
    1713 days ago
  • DEE107
    hugs my friend
    1713 days ago
    emoticon Thank you for sharing your story. A Mother's love is never forgotten and you hold her in your heart. I think it is wonderful that she had her date with your Dad before she had her stoke. She was happy and that is what matters.

    Thinking of you today and I'm glad that you had a great Mother's Day. Make each day a special day by taking care of yourself .
    1713 days ago
    1713 days ago
  • QTEALADY20031
    Kathy, this is a beautiful blog that you have written and I can understand how you felt when your mother had her stroke on Mother's Day. I am so happy for you that you can now fully appreciate this special day. Kathy, thank you so much for sharing these special thoughts! emoticon emoticon June
    1713 days ago
    Kathy, I am happy that you are now able to enjoy this wonderful day, Mother's Day. Your mom would be happy to know that too. This is the first Mother's Day that Mom is gone and I miss her so much. I did have a nice day even when thinking how much I miss her. The kids/grandkids wished me a Happy Day. I am happy that Jamie came for a visit and you enjoyed the day. emoticon
    1713 days ago
  • KITT52
    thanks Kathy for sharing that part of your life....
    10 years ago today was my Mom's last Mother's Day, I sent her a beautiful vase of yellow flowers....I was there to visit the first week of may, when she got the news she had 4th stage lung cancer...I too have been angry with her not stopping to smoke...
    She died May 26th, less than a month after the news...it was also the day after her 57th wedding anniversary.....
    Glad you have seen the joy in Mothers Day once again, we all have to enjoy each moment, cuz it might be the last...we never know what might happen...

    Happy Mother's Day
    1713 days ago
    Kathy, this is a wonderful blog!! This has been a hard day for me since my mom died in 2001. I miss her so much. I always tell her Happy Mother's Day every year. I get out her engagement ring that she left me and I wore it for Rocky's graduation and today. It makes me feel closer to her.

    I am so glad that you're having a wonderful day. Keep all your wonderful memories of your mom close to your heart. Take care!


    1713 days ago
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