Support systems- How to use them
Sunday, May 12, 2013
Back in January I wrote about my support system for weight loss and exercise which consisted mainly of a childhood friend who lives on the other end of the east coast and who is an athlete. In the beginning we called each other at 5:00 am to get the workout started and spoke about what I was eating that day/week. We talked about working out and making plans to change workouts or modify certain moves that were too advanced for me.
By mid-March, I was well on my way and we took our annual vacation together, we worked out together that week and stayed active all week. We also silently assessed the other's eating habits and spoke about it at length after we got home. About 2 weeks after vacation, my friend was injured and unable to workout for a few weeks. He offered to continue to call in the mornings but I told him I didn't need him to, I could handle it.
I did fine flying solo and found that I was able to let go of my clutch. We still talk but now it's less often about exercising and eating, those are generally only once or twice a week. I actually had to encourage him to get back to working out because he's off season and just wasn't feeling the exercise routine after a month of being injured. So what's the lesson here?
1. Starting out, use your support system as much as you need but don't make it a completely dependent relationship.
2. Take small steps to weaning yourself off the support system, not entirely, you will always need support. But, you can become more independent in your fitness and health goals.
3. Sometimes you become to person to lean on in the relationship, embrace it, it shows how far you've come.