Sunday, May 12, 2013
Who knew that having babies (and raising them) makes us smarter? Mothering actually results in measurable growth in grey matter in the mid brain!!
No question that having children has taken every ounce of intellectual AND emotional ability I could bring to bear on the project . . . and some days continues to do just that with my two fine adult kids.
Yup, you can actually feel the ol' expansion of the brain (and heart) as you stretch and grow with the continuous effort of being a mother -- much like the physical expansion that began the whole project! Which left a few stretch marks here and there too, right?
Regrets? Sure, I've had a few in the mothering department. Wish I'd known more, wish I'd tried harder, wish I'd snapped less, wish I'd been more laid back. Wish I'd been more of the person I've become through the process from the beginning. But it doesn't work that way, does it? All-in-all, I did my best and certainly have taken huge huge pleasure in being a mother. And still do, of course.
Those of you reading this do too: I'm sure of it! That's mothering, and it's a verb.
So: Happy Mother' s Day to all of us who are mothers, and are continuing to become mothers . . . a becoming that never ends. Given my own mother's continuing voice inside my own head . . . truly never.