Saturday, May 11, 2013
Well, this past week has been the first time in I don't know how long that I have not only *not* met my various weekly tracker goals - but I haven't even bothered trying with most of my goals!
I've been busy.
Mind and body.
Yes, I know that sounds like an excuse. But this time - it isn't.
I have been doing a lot around the house - probably more than I eventually claimed for, if I had the energy to count then come and claim!
A *huge* decluttering had to happen within just a very few days.
It was all caused by my dear hubby and his view that he should have his say, then it will all happen.
I give the man his due. This house is badly cluttered, and more than 50% is down to me. Just, not all of it. Beyond that - definite faults on both sides. I can face it and admit it, so why can't he?
That is probably just a side track.
But, having told me "his requirements" a couple of months ago - suddenly I had just 6 days to get the sitting room sorted.
Yes, some of the stuff has been here for long enough - partly because hubby won't actually do what I ask of him. And some of it has been very recent, because he wanted to clear spaces both at his side of the bedroom and in the room he has used for years as his study. Where would one put the "stuff" for sorting? Where else but the sitting room!
Oh yes, you all know that one, I'm sure: "Just ask me, and I'll do it."
But what happens when you say what you'd like him to do? He makes a start then, after 5 or 10 minutes he's gone off on a tangent, and doesn't find his way back.
Then he can't understand why you aren't hugely grateful for his input and his help.
Like - I'd like the sitting room dusted for folk coming to visit for the weekend. He looks at the sitting room, doesn't know (suddenly) where dusters etc are kept, and ends up cleaning all the downstairs windows, inside and out.
Or was it in my mind that, if I get the sitting room sorted, he's going to want to spend time in here. It's been my space for long and weary - basically since the kids were born, so we're talking 25 years. So, do I really want to clear the area then have him want to share my space?
Anyways, through thick and thin, the sitting room was available for hubby's appointment on Wednesday morning.
Then a local BF arrived at the door, early afternoon, just to give me moral support afterwards. That was a huge boost to me, because she was able to come in and say, "wow" there's a whole floor here!
I thought that "all" I had to do was clear some of the area - but no, I had to clear every last speck off the sitting room floor before DH would condescend to even start to hoover, with me having to be here to move the chairs etc around - when what I needed to be doing was a final swish'n'swipe in the bathroom, and be dealing with the dishwasher and kitchen stuff.
So - a few days later - I've taken a few days off, just to get some sleep and relaxation.
And - I'm now head down and starting the new 5% challenge, today.
And DH is away to his Mum's today till Wednesday or even Thursday next week. He has an appointment here on Friday, so will be home for that.
It doesn't seem to matter that I need the car on Thursday, even though it's for my 2 hours' paid employment each week.
Can I rant any louder, or any longer? Well yes. But I'll settle for what I've ranted just now. I just wish I felt the better for it.
So I'll think now about DH and that he's with his Mum for the next 5 or 6 days - and feel comforted that I'm here and not there with hubby, with Mother-in-Law causing problems with nearly every comment.
Sorry about the confused message - I just needed somewhere to get it off my chest.