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Too much well meaning assistance!

Saturday, May 11, 2013

" Wait in the car, Mom, while I run into the market."
" Don't get up, Mom, I'll get your tea!"
" We are going for a hike this morning but I'm afraid it will be too much for you, Mom."
"We kids have decided you need a cleaning service, They are coming Monday!"
"Don't bend down to pick up that, I'll get it."
"You are having trouble getting up out of your chair. How about one of the recliners with an automatic lift."
And so it goes! Too much love and concern are making an invalid out of me!
Four years ago the family decided that living alone in my big two story house in Florida was too much for me and I should move to Las Vegas and stay with my daughter and son in law. It is a lovely home, but all of the activities I used to do have gone away. No house cleaning. No driving. No gardening or yard work. etc. My only activity seems to be a bit of walking and some exercise routines which I often skip because it hurts.
Well things are changing, hopefully for the better. I am moving back to Florida, building a smaller house next door to my youngest daughter where I will have some responsibilities and independence again.
I know that I am blessed with a caring and loving family. So many seniors do not have this kind of support. I just feel the need to be of some value and not a burden to those loved ones. I will have the space for the things I love that have been in storage. Room for my painting and writing. A yard where I control what is planted.
So, my spark friends, I will try to keep you informed as this major change takes place. You prayers are so appreciated.

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KLONG8 6/11/2013 8:42PM

    This seems like a wonderful solution. And I'm very glad you'll be close to your youngest daughter but have your own place, your own responsibilities, pleasures and independence. Keep us posted.

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REXTINE1 5/27/2013 12:09PM

    Congratulations on your move! The BW is adamant that this small house (I wanted a bigger one after we quit full-timing) is the only place she is going to live. I have a cardiologist who tried to tell me that I shouldn't cut the grass any more and was really pretty pushy about it, but just sitting is the way to fade away in a short while. You really do need to keep moving as much as possible, and our kids have tried to push us around a little too. But we just let them know that we're getting along fine.

I hope the move works out fine for you.

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--KREN 5/16/2013 7:09AM

    Happy for you! Keep us updated as you progress on your new life journey.

Karen

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HAPPYMOM8 5/14/2013 10:40AM

    WE ARE SO HAPPY FOR YOU!
MANY OF YOUR STATEMENTS RING A BELL FOR US TOO!
BUT LIKE LOIS SAID, THEY ALL MEAN WELL.
BUT WE ALL KNOW- THE MORE WE DO FOR OURSELVES THE LONGER WE CAN!
PLEASE KEEP US POSTED.
PAT

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DIDMIS 5/13/2013 10:37PM

    Good for you. You are doing the right thing. Keep going as long as you can.
Irene

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LMMIMI 5/11/2013 9:24PM

    Families mean well. They need to just love us and not love us to death. Good for you and good luck on your new adventure. emoticon

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