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Friday, May 10, 2013

Being overweight sucks. Nothing fits right, you don't like the way you look, your doctor is always telling you to lose weight, people make fat jokes or give you THAT look...but you don't say anything. When I was heavy, I tended to ignore that fact or make a joke out of it. I would call myself a "big girl". I would say "I could use to lose". But rarely did I ever say I was fat and needed help.

Our weight is something that we tend to be very quiet about, but it's like any addiction: we can only improve when we admit there's a problem and seek help. I got help from my dentist and the lady who became my health coach. That motivated me to start this journey - and led me to losing 80 pounds.

The other thing is: losing weight and becoming healthier isn't meant to be something we do in secret, all by ourselves, out of everyone's prying eyes. Having a health coach, a fitness buddy, a spouse, a friend, a sibling be there to support us is HUGE. I was most successful on Weight Watchers when I did it with a dear college friend and team mate. We checked in on each other, made sure we were doing OK, and otherwise encouraged each other to keep going. The moment that she graduated and we moved our separate ways, I found myself having a harder and harder time staying on top of it. Eventually, I gave up.

Now, I have a health coach. She's been a great support, particularly early in my program. I check in with her and let her know how I'm doing.

I also rely on my sister. We talk honestly about our weight and how to be healthy and make healthier choices.

And of course, there's all the wonderful SparkFriends I've been blessed to meet! You guys give me support and encouragement, help me continue to live healthily and happily! The SparkCommunity has been wonderful to me and I'm sooooo glad that I joined.

While YOU are the one responsible for your health, it doesn't mean that you have to withdraw from everyone else and go it alone. Asking for help and accountability is OK and definitely needed! When you are dying to eat a package of Keebler cookies, call up your friend and talk about it. When you are angry, get together with your fitness buddy and work your bums out. When you are looking for healthier alternatives to junky foods, turn to your health coach or doctor or someone to give you inspiration. But don't think you have to go it alone.

Thank you to the SparkDiet for the inspiration for this post.
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    So true. Everyone knows we have a problem, but then we hide that we are trying to fix it. Maybe if we don't talk about it, nobody will notice that we are overweight ! I think this reluctance to ask for help is based in shame. There is no reason to have shame. Every person on this planet has some kind of issue. Unfortunately, our issue is very visible. And emotional eating makes it a very complex problem. But there are people who understand. Having someone support you through this challenge helps. Thanks for the reminder.
    1749 days ago
    Thank you. I find it hard to find support, but am happy to have SP? emoticon
    1749 days ago
    I've tried to do this in secret before and it has failed. This time, everyone seems to know about my goals and progress, from the security guards at my job to my closest friends and family. Everyone is so encouraging, sometimes when I least expect it, which keeps me very motivated. Having a health coach seems so awesome! I wish I had one! How did you two connect?
    1749 days ago
    I read you blog because I was intrigued by the comment overwieght sucks. I think it's a secret shameful part of our culture, the strong silent isolated type.
    1749 days ago
    Support is sooooo important! I wouldn't have succeeded if it wasn't for the cheering on and support I've found here. emoticon
    1749 days ago
    I thought your blog was very good. what I am doing at the moment is on occasion I go to the gym and work out with a friend. I have sparkpeople and I also have cafemom.com. I have a wellness coach who is a friend of mine and works for Herbalife and I have another wellness coach who works for my medical insurance company. I understand that doctors always bug you when you have to lose weight. I procrastinated for the longest time until I was able to join a gym. now I go about 5-6 times a week. I do cardio and strength training and right now I am drinking protein drinks once or twice a day and also doing a cell activator and a multivitamin. I have lost a few pounds so far, but I do know it will take a while to lose the 50 I have left. one day at a time and one step at a timeis all we can do.
    1749 days ago
    Thank you. This is a very good reminder of how important support is.
    1749 days ago
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