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Tiny Hands

Thursday, May 09, 2013

I have tiny hands.

They're pretty fast at typing, nimble. But when I use them as a cup at the faucet to scoop water to splash my washed face, it takes awhile. Applying lotion, gardening, grasping and carrying things: all of these tasks are probably do much easier for someone with larger hands.

Yet, I don't begrudge nature for growing me. I don't curse God or hate my hands. They are part of me. I just adapt. I buy drinking glasses that are tall and skinny instead of short and wide, so they don't slip out of my hands as easily.

My feet are small, too. I walk pretty carefully, I suppose. I take purposeful, delicate steps, having never had the luxury of boatloads of balance. More than once people have commented on my step, even complimented me for having grace despite my large size. It almost doesn't register- I am just me.

So why do we criticize the things that also make us who we are? What makes something suddenly so undesirable? I know that I am hardest on myself when I feel like my results don't match my intentions. I get disappointed in myself for having beautiful ideas for great adventures and sharing them but then failing to follow through or take enough, or not get preoccupied with surviving in life too much and forget.

But in that example, cursing my enthusiasm is misguided at best. Avoiding telling someone of a fantastic plan just completely blocks it from every happening in the first place! And lamenting about how I don't take initiative gets nothing done, but merely wastes more time. I'll just have to learn to observe, adjust, and move forward. Every next time is a new opportu ity to adapt more positively.

And meanwhile, I will continue to appreciate these hands for what they can create, how quickly they perform, and all of the other things I value. I will take care of them, stretch them gently so they stop cramping up at work, and prevent them from turning each into a frozen claw grip. Maybe I'll even add some cuticle oil to my overly dry fingertips. Ahh, the luxury of self care! I deserve it.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MARTY728 5/10/2013 11:22AM

    Only the size of the heart (caring) matters! I think you are a caring individual.

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MCJULIEO 5/9/2013 5:22PM

    You said it!

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THOMS1 5/9/2013 10:11AM

    Great Blog.

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HIPPICHICK1 5/9/2013 9:43AM

    Lovely blog. You deserve the best!!

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RYDERB 5/9/2013 8:59AM

    Beautiful blog!

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    Here here!

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DDOORN 5/9/2013 8:15AM

    Such a challenge: to UN-learn all those UN-healthy messages we've taken in during our past. Your awareness of those messages is great preparation for ditching them! No longer in the old rut of "automatic pilot" self-bashing...YES!


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JESPAH 5/9/2013 7:33AM

    Beauty has changed over the millennia, and it also changes depending upon where you are.

Foot size. Breast size. Hair length. Nail length. Waist size. Neck length. Lip size and shape. You can find cultures that did something about this - and some in the extreme.

And don't get me started on skin tone, what is in, or out, or has been.

Yet when foot binding was seen as being beauty, big-footed women were still born. And when long-necked women were seen as being more desirable, shorter-necked women were still born. Same as flat-chested women, etc. We women have been battered around quite a bit, all in the name of beauty, and men's preferences.

The least we can do is stop battering ourselves, and each other.

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BONNIEMARGAY 5/9/2013 4:20AM


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KIMPAINTS 5/9/2013 3:06AM

    You are truly amazing!!

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MERRY_XMAS 5/9/2013 2:36AM

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LOVINGAFRICA 5/9/2013 2:06AM

    Yes, you do deserve it!
Just get an adventure buddy who is good at Activation, and you will have many stories to tell. You can be the idea loader and he/she can be the trigger.
Now where to get one of those!
Bless you

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