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Wednesday, May 08, 2013

Happy and glad to be home with my old and ageing kittys whom i missed so much,also the 3 kittys are trying to adjust to the new cat and shes afraid of them but in time it will all work out.I am also happy to be in my true home with my true love,the father of my kids,we can be miserable together but more miserable apart,and we both hate being alone,it wont always be love n roses but we are determined not to make the same mistakes and really put a effort into making a happy life together.I wish my friends and family could be supportive even if you refuse to be happy for me xox

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BEEJAY49 5/9/2013 4:29PM

    All marriages struggle from time to time . If it's in both of your hearts to make it work then you should! My prayers will be with you. HUGS!

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IMAVISION 5/9/2013 1:29PM

    I am happy to read of the promise of your future.

God bless!

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SPARKFRAN514 5/9/2013 9:55AM

    glad happy that is all that counts

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DIDMIS 5/8/2013 9:52PM


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NELLIEC 5/8/2013 4:39PM

    I bet your kitties are very happy you are there!

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ANASARI 5/8/2013 1:52PM

    Have you two tried watching the movie called "Fireproof" and (subsequently) doing "The Love Dare"? (It's a book.) I would really recommend it for your situation: it changed my life, and our marriage has never been better. It's that amazing! It might be good inspiration now that you've renewed your commitment to making it work between you two.

The movie ("Fireproof") is a drama about a couple on the eve of divorce, and how the husband gets involved with a book that changes the whole outcome. It's incredibly inspirational, and not at all a "chick flick" like you'd think a romantic drama would often be.

The book itself is real, called "The Love Dare," and can be purchased from Amazon and many other places, probably even checked out from the library. It has 40 days worth of daily devotional exercises that really help you see the bigger picture and get past many minor hurdles that make things break down so often, regardless of whose fault it is. It's easy to get bogged down in this minor stuff, but this really helps you be mindful of the bigger picture.

You don't even both have to do the book, as it is effective even if one of you does it: I started doing "The Love Dare" in secret, like the guy in the movie, and after only a few days, my husband had already noticed a new peace, love, and harmony about our household that had (apparently?) been lacking. It changed him, too, because he began responding in kind (just like when it's bad, you feed off of each other's contributions to the relationship, good or bad). My view before that had been to try to change the few things that bothered me about him or I felt he was doing wrong, or things that he did that upset me, but really just changing myself and my interpretation of the issues, along with my coping methods, was all it took to make it worlds better.

It's a religious-based book and movie (Baptist, I think), but I'm not personally religious, and still found it quite edifying. They don't ram it down your throat, and there is still a greater message about true love between husband and wife. So as long as you don't have an axe to grind with religion, it is still very valuable and worth it even if you don't ascribe to those beliefs.

Good luck to you both!

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GAILRUU 5/8/2013 1:38PM

    We just had our 50th wedding anniversary. There have been bad patches but we have always stayed together.

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ANASARI 5/8/2013 10:59AM

    You got your kitties! That is awesome, glad for you!!

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PEZMOM1 5/8/2013 10:08AM


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MJREIMERS 5/8/2013 7:48AM

    I admire your commitment. Relationships aren't always easy and they do take work. (I'll be married 20 years in the fall.) Relationships do need mutual respect for each other, time to actually listen and hear the other person, and working together. It sounds like you are doing what you need to do for you and your kids.

I wish you all the best! Remember you are worth all the good that you receive!!

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PATTYKLAVER 5/8/2013 7:44AM

    I wish for you the best of luck.

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SHERYLDS 5/8/2013 7:34AM


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NELLJONES 5/8/2013 7:34AM

    The only opinions in a relationship that count are those of the people in it.

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08ESCAPE 5/8/2013 7:16AM

    You have to do what is right for you! When they see you are happy they will come around. (((Hugs)))

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