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Unexpected Challenging Opportunity

Tuesday, May 07, 2013

I got a call from the nonprofit agency I used to direct. They've fired my successor and now they want me to help fix a mess and get things back on track. There are people I would really like to help, but I'm not sure I remember enough to be much help. My time is limited with child care duties, but we may be able to work out some other arrangements. Oh, my, I had not seen this coming. With one car between hubby and I and this agency being quite a commute, that will be a challenge. Wonder if I could find a carpool? I've gotten rid of most of my professional clothes and shoes. My hair is a wild mess. I know that looking the part helps. Don't think I could be effective wearing what I wear around the house.

One thing I cannot do is allow myself to get too stressed out, which would be very easy to do. I will have to do what I can do and let the rest go. Easier said than done. I lost much of my weight while I was working for this agency, although earlier I'd gained quite a bit working there, too. If I go back to work, even temporarily, it does not mean I have to gain weight, but I'll have to work hard to make sure it doesn't happen. It will be trickier to get my workouts and running completed, but not impossible. I will be sitting a lot more than I do now. I am sure the agency is struggling financially and there won't be much financial incentive to undertake this challenge. But I'm going to at least go and talk to them about it and see if there is a role for me in this renewal effort.

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2WHEELEDSHARON 5/9/2013 1:13PM

    I hope something great gets worked out for both you and the agency.

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WATERMELLEN 5/8/2013 8:45PM

    It's very very flattering to be asked back . . . and I'm nor surprised that they realize your value there! As you say: why not go back and explore the opportunity? Could you do some of the work on line from home? Maybe only go in a couple days a week?

You will figure it out: you are BRILLIANT! And the person to please here is, of course YOU!!!

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AQUAGIRL08 5/8/2013 3:37PM

    I admire your positive and thoughtful attitude, Marsha! Protecting your health is a primary concern and you are wise to think of that in advance.

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CAALAN23 5/8/2013 9:46AM

    That is indeed a nod to your worth! I agree with others that you have earned this time for yourself though and to take things slowly and not agree to "pull them out of the fire" but instead tell them where the water spigot and hose are. Perhaps be part of a panel to hire another?

Whatever you do, take care!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 5/8/2013 7:21AM

    You've received a lot of good advice. Good luck with whatever you decide.
However, I think that you would be "effective" no matter what you were wearing or however your hair looked although it might shake up the status quo.

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CONTENTCHRIS 5/8/2013 2:07AM

    I agree that they have a problem.

They fired the successor and are probably

having to do more then they thought.

However, When people retire that means they are done.

I think the max you should commit to is be an adviser

when they need advice and possibly help train a

qualified person. I agree with your other friend in that

you should not allow them to guilt you into helping.

I used to work for a non profit and my boss played that

card so much I eventually became bitter. emoticon

I am much better now ..of .course? emoticon

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RUNNERRACHEL 5/7/2013 10:34PM

    It's nice to know they appreciate your knowledge and expertise. I can imagine that it would be hard to leave the lifestyle you have now. Is it possible to train someone who could replace you? Don't take anything that would compromise your health, happiness or raise your stress level. Don't feel under any obligation. Yet, it also sounds like you may like this opportunity. Think it over and make the decision that works for you, that makes you happy.

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COCK-ROBIN 5/7/2013 10:00PM

    Go for it!

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/7/2013 8:35PM

    Oh... my... goodness. Sounds like we are hitting another life parallel... and you'd just been telling me how much I would enjoy retirement! Guard your newfound identity well... you are so clearly HAPPY... don't let anything undermine that. Balance, balance, and more balance required.

But if anyone can do this... it's YOU. You've learned much on this journey!

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GABY1948 5/7/2013 6:23PM

    How I could relate to your story and I kept thinking that if it was me....well, do so well don't let ANYTHING stress you out, Marsha! And, I know you CAN do it! You are my hero...and I know you can do it! emoticon emoticon

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FROSTY99 5/7/2013 6:13PM

    No matter what you decide, at least you are considering it-and for the right reasons, to help others, not for monetary gains. Hopefully you can work out something that would work for both of you.

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JOYINKY 5/7/2013 5:55PM

    It's great of you to even consider going in and talking with them now that you've moved on with your life. And yes, it is nice to be appreciated. It's also nice to be paid what you're worth. So, go and talk and see if it's something you would want to do but don't forget that it's perfectly OK to say NO.

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LIVE2RUN4LIFE 5/7/2013 5:41PM

    Think hard about why you would choose to do this. Sounds pretty stressful to me (big mess, long commute -- could you really control how much time you spent?) Be sure, if you do it, that it is because that is what is right for you, not just an automatic response to the compliment and feeling needed (women are really susceptible to that). Resist putting yourself last.

Comment edited on: 5/7/2013 5:42:20 PM

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SUSANNAH31 5/7/2013 5:17PM

    What a compliment for you - and a statement about how much you are appreciated by your former colleagues.
It's good that you are not willing to just forget about your personal goals to help them out.


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_LINDA 5/7/2013 5:11PM

    Wow! You are seriously thinking about going back to work even with full time child care? I know lots of working Moms cope with this, but most of them are not at retirement age either. It would be quite a lot on your plate and I really don't see how it is doable to keep up with your running either -the long commute might just be the deal breaker there. That is simply something you can't afford. You have earned your retirement! Your running is your 'me time' To have anything interfere with that would simply be criminal. Do take care of yourself, you are worth it. Is working out of your home on your own time schedule feasible with this job? That an alternative..

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IMPETUOUS1 5/7/2013 5:03PM

    What an exciting possibility, whether you decide to follow it or now. Congratulations on being so well appreciated! emoticon

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OWL_20 5/7/2013 4:09PM

    Gosh, it sounds like a door might be opening, but maybe you don't want it to open? It might be worth it to go and see what exactly they want. Whichever you choose, it'll have to be good for you. Hard decision! emoticon

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LEWILL1982 5/7/2013 2:33PM

    It's alot to consider but you'll figure out your balance, you'll discover your answer as soon as you talk to them probably. Keep us updated!

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    Go in and talk to them about the job. The answer will become clear if you should return to a former job. We usually leave jobs for a reason...

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MSLZZY 5/7/2013 1:54PM

    Check it out before you dismiss the possibility of stepping in. The rewards might be greater than you think. It will be an adjustment but I think you are up to the challenge. Good luck!

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KLMEIRING 5/7/2013 1:51PM

    Wow! Sounds like an amazing opportunity. emoticon

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PMRUNNER 5/7/2013 1:48PM

    I hate to see something that I have worked on derail after I am gone. I hope that you can figure out the right balance and that you can help them get back on track. Good luck!

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BEBOP4ME 5/7/2013 1:39PM

    Good luck!

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