Change is Scary
Tuesday, May 07, 2013
So, while some people may be excited and overjoyed with weight-loss, I have a fear. I'm not saying I'm any different than anyone else. I'm sure a lot of people fear losing weight and here's why: Change is scary!
Why is change scary? If you are stuck or stagnant at a certain place, that's all you know. Changing or moving forth from that place is going into an unknown charter. You don't know what you're supposed to do here or how to do it. It's like trying to use quantum physics or astroarchaelology without a lesson in it first. Everything is going to change when you lose weight. Your body is going to need new clothes, people will react to you differently, you will occupy space differently - everything will be different except for maybe a few things here and there.
Sometimes when I lose a good amount of weight I totally talk myself out of continuing on because all I can think about is the change. I know that change can be good but how is it possible to navigate new ways? I suppose I could just play it by ear and get my feet wet, still a scary notion.
How do we nix the fear in change? Admitting we have a fear and what the core reasons for this fear is a good first step. Then, perhaps analyze what is real in those fears and what is just perceived. Get support from others and try to include them in your journey so you won't feel so alone. Write down pros and cons, thoroughly thinking them over. (I bet the pros outweigh the cons.) Keep a journal to help work through the issues. And last but not least - distract yourself from your fear so you don't get yourself down in the bogs. (Try horseback riding, hula hooping, bicycle racing, soccer, and playing tag with your kids.)