Tuesday, May 07, 2013
Ugh, what a past day, well what a past 12 hours. Went to the gym last night and got a call on my cell from the ex. We get along fairly well, and donít often fight, but itís not like I like to sit on the phone and chat with her. Well, since I was on the bike I figured the whole thing could wait and I would call her back. When I got finished I forgot to check my voicemail. So, I finish up, stretch out after the ride. Hit the sauna and then get cleaned up. I go home, sit down and flip on the tv. Phone rings again. Itís the ex wife again.
Now, my ex and I have our issues that we will not see eye to eye on ever. Which is a reason we are no longer married. I think she is way too hard on the kids about grades and while I know that good grades are important. Well, with my oldest daughter it was unwarranted since she is one who always got Aís in high school. Top 50 in her class and I think she got one B in her entire high school career. And mainly it was without putting a whole lot of effort in to it. My son is different. He reminds me a lot of me when I was his age. I had to work harder at it, but I did ok. He has to work at it. But occasionally he ďforgetsĒ to turn things in. The ex has always been wanting to come down hard on him. Grounding and taking away his games and I have usually exercised easing off. Giving him the chance to get it straightened out. He does decent work most of the time and even with missing assignments has usually gotten Bís and Aís.
So, last night the call was that he had neglected to turn in a project for English. Supposedly it is finished, but he just forgot to turn it in. At this point I donít much care. Bottom line is I think it was the straw that broke the camels back. I went off on him and took his phone for a week. He is also co-captain of the JV tennis team and as such he is responsible for passing along messages to half the team when the coach sends something out. So this isnít only him itís affecting. He is making someone else do more work because he slacked off.
Not only has it finally gotten to me, but I am sick of the lectures from the ex. It is enough to drive someone crazy.
So, I get in to work this morning and get another call. Ugh, canít it wait till I pick up the kids tonight? Well, turns out he had another project he was working on last night and at 2:00 am, he lost it. I guess he dozed or something, went to close it and didnít save it. So, he ended up trying to piece together a project at 4:00 am. Grrrr, at what point is getting mad about this one and doing something about it piling on? I mean, I could ground him, take his phone for 2 weeks or whatever, but I canít help wondering if my being mad and punishing him played a role in this one. Well, I guess I will hold off to see how it actually turns out on this one.