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Tuesday, May 07, 2013

Yesterday and today I feel a little troubled. My soon to be ex came over Saturday night to meet the realtor with me and made a few comments that lead me to believe that while a week ago, he wanted to be somewhat generous with very little arguing and more agreeing over splitting the assets he now seemed a bit more aggressive. He even tried to call the attorney I hired (who I see today for our first meeting) and was not thrilled when she would not speak with him.

I hope to just get this done and over with. My wishes are to have this end as amicably as possible and I do not intend to bring pettiness into the mix. I hope he does not either.

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    Its wise and mature of you to try to avoid pettiness, but also you have to protect yourself and your financial assets. Don't let him take things you should rightfully have out of a spirit of generosity because years from now, you will still be trying to sort out your finances if you don't protect your assets now. You owe it to yourself to get what is coming to you, out of your joint marriage.
    1772 days ago
    You will be in my prayers hang in there, sounds like your lawyer is taking care of you.
    1773 days ago
    Sounds like your Lawyer is on top of things, if she refused to talk to your soon-to-be Ex.

    I learned the hard way that I should have put a notice in the personals saying: "I am no longer responsible for the debts of (ex's name)", but at least my Lawyer took care of things. I only wish they would have told me up front to run the personal add.

    Hope everything went well with your appointment today.
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    1774 days ago
    Also, make sure you get what YOU need even if it takes time. Don't let him and his attorney take what is rightly yours to start your new life. God bless you. emoticon
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    1774 days ago
    emoticon Praying that this will be worked out amicably. emoticon
    1774 days ago
  • KARENE10
    1774 days ago
    I'm sorry you are going through this. I think that people going through a divorce go through different stages so that although his behavior seems inconsistent with his previous attitude, it is consistent with someone who has ambivalent feelings about getting a divorce - and I would imagine everyone has ambivalent feelings when getting a divorce. He may flip flop back to not wanting to be confrontational. I totally understand how you feel though. You just want it to be over with and not have a lot of conflict. It's quite possible that how he was yesterday is no more permanent than how he was before - so maybe just give it time and continue on with your intention to keep things as unconfrontational as possible.

    It will work out - but divorce is hard.

    Wishing you all the best!

    1774 days ago
    1775 days ago
    Hang in there, sweet friend. They do show their angst in the midst of their troubles. You are strong. You will get through this. BIG HUGS!!! emoticon emoticon
    1775 days ago
    Good luck...Hope it all goes smoothly.....You are in a tough time...Be kind to yourself.
    1775 days ago
    good luck. I went through the same thing but it all turned out okay in the end. I hope it is over for you soon.
    1775 days ago
  • STEPHANIE302013
    Such a hard thing to go through - I hope things go well and your soon to be ex doesn't cause too much trouble emoticon
    1775 days ago
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