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Pushing Past the Hard Comments

Monday, May 06, 2013

"Wow, you've gained some weight, haven't you??!" That was my comment this morning from a co-worker.

I started the P90X program about two weeks ago, after a rapid weight gain. I let work stress me out, keep me late, and stopped all my healthy habits. I stopped my 3-5 days a week of soccer/ultimate frisbee, and I stopped my yoga. I worked late, so couldn't make these. I was too tired to get up before work for my normal power yoga home workouts. And I turned to fatty foods to deal with the stress.

This all lead to a 20 pound weight gain in a matter of a few months.

I knew it, it was obvious in how I looked. A few people, when I mentioned it, would sympathetically nod. So, I finally decided to take back control: not let my job destroy my health, my routine, and thus my self-esteem.

I have now done 16 days of healthy eating, and working out intensely an average of 5 days per week.

And the weight hasn't budged. But I keep going - knowing it's good for me.

But today, it was a blow to my self confidence and self image. Two co-workers, within 2 hours of showing up at work, made comments on my weight gain.

I can tell myself it's that i'm wearing a less flattering blouse today - perhaps it doesn't hide the gain as well, but I know that's not true. The truth is simply that: I have gained weight. It is in my hips, my stomach, my arms, and my face.

It is hard to hear the truth so bluntly, but it would be harder still to let this get me down and give up. I need to use this, instead, to continue my momentum.

yes, I have gained weigh - BUT JUST YOU WATCH! I will get it back off! I will show you IT CAN BE DONE! It takes discipline, it takes time, but it is possible, and IT IS WORTH IT!

Push past those hard comments, push past the self doubt and self pity, and claim your body! Claim your health!

I Will Succeed! I AM Succeeding -- every day, by taking steps forward. By not giving up. By hanging in there, even when it's difficult.

And you will succeed, too! You likely ARE succeeding already, just in the fact that you're HERE with Spark people!

How are you taking steps to keep succeeding day after day, or even just minute by minute?

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
QUESTINGKATE 7/1/2013 6:09PM

    last week was the first week no one said anything!!! It only took 9 weeks of weekly reminders. Lord, help my crushed self-confidence rebound. Thanks.

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MZZCHIEF 6/30/2013 11:00AM

    I don't know you well, but from what I've read of your postings, you seem to be a very health conscious, centered person with a sense of fun.

When people like you gain, its surprising... so best prepare yourself for their surprised comments!

Have you considered getting your thyroid checked?
I had the same problem... weight gain despite lowering my calories and adding additional work outs to my usual routine.

Take care, be good to you...
: )

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SPIRITUALBEAR 5/30/2013 11:44AM

    I followed a friend to your blog, as the title caught my attention.

All I can say... Good for you for lifting your sword and slaying that dragon as his head rises! Your willpower is your virtue, and will in good time redeem yourself. be strong1 You can and will succeed! Just as all of us shall do in our own time. It takes time gain weight, so it will take time to safely take it off. emoticon

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STRONGCOURAGE 5/25/2013 5:37PM

    thanks for sharing!! your pushing through the hard stuff while doing good is encouraging to me....I'll keep at it, even through the rough patches! emoticon

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ANNMACP0212 5/25/2013 5:09PM

    You're a better person than me! I'd have a few choice words for folks who say nasty things... Good for you for sticking with it, working hard to change things. emoticon

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CAMAEL100 5/25/2013 4:59PM

    Wow, you have some very RUDE co-workers!! But well done for you to push past it. Also you are right to keep going and the scale will budge eventually. It is said that we often stop just as we were about to win!

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DSBRIDE 5/25/2013 4:38PM

    How I know the feeling, like today when I went to a baby shower and overheard someone talking about me looking like the pregnant women. How it hurt and yes it was true. I put on weight and its all in my stomach. Yes I am trying to take it off but spot reducing is just not happening. Is there a corner I can go cry in? All I can do is my best and work thru this but I wish I could bury myself in the sand till I get there!

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TIME2BLOOM4ME 5/25/2013 3:08PM

    Gosh what mean words.

Be strong. Show them what great things you can and will do.

Thank goodness for your training in eating the right things.



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QUESTINGKATE 5/12/2013 7:20PM

    Honestly, I don't think these people were saying it maliciously - just as something they noticed and maybe were a little shocked. Afterall, I'm the one that is usually promoting all the healthy lifestyles and activities. So, I don't think it was meant to be harmful - just a different culture here, and just a statement of note on their part. With one person, I could maybe even convince myself that she was saying it out of sympathy noting that it is because of all my stress at work - like "sorry work is rough, I can see you've been having a rough time and not able to take care of yourself the way you normally would like to."

Now, the RUDE time was several years back at a different job, when a woman asked if I was pregnant. To try to brush it off in a semi joking manner, I said "no, but I guess it's time to kick the diet and exercise up a notch!" and instead of the back-peddling apology I was expecting, she instead gave me this judging look and said, "mmmmm-hmmmm!"

WTH!? And She was even heavier than me!! Hahaha! It hurt a LOT at the time, but now I find it to be a most entertaining story :) And it SURE motivated me to start working out again at that time! (But I did let myself dwell in self pity for the rest of the day at work, before finally finding my fire to get back to it.)

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BREW99 5/11/2013 9:13PM

    oh my! I'm guessing those people aren't happy with their own weight to mention someone else? Completely uncalled for... emoticon So sorry. emoticon At least you are doing yoga and working towards something that is good for your body. Health is the most important thing. emoticon

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CENTURYFLOWER 5/9/2013 12:00PM

    Yes! Yes! Yes! And sometimes it takes a few weeks of being intensely patient to see it budge. My body takes a few weeks of me working hard before it decides... and I'm in week 2 and I need to be patient and along with keeping my goals to have faith! I'm with you on this!

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BEBOP4ME 5/8/2013 7:26PM

    Good job pushing past the hurtful comments. You are doing the right things! emoticon emoticon

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QUESTINGKATE 5/8/2013 2:14AM

    You guys are awesome and amazing for you support :) I love sparkies!!


Did my workout this morning, tracking calories, and getting in an extra bit of exercise tonight!


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MATTEROFHEART 5/7/2013 10:04AM

    How rude! I am absolutely shocked by how insensitive people can be! I never had any comment on weight gain, but I had several ask when I was due...
You can do this and you will show them! You go girl!

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PMRUNNER 5/7/2013 9:22AM

    One day at a time! You can do it, no, you will do it!

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MAGGIEMAGGIE5 5/7/2013 9:18AM

    I hate when people are rude and/or hurtful. It's miserable to deal with.
Good for you that you don't let their thoughtless remarks defeat you. You know the truth, and you know what to do. You will do it for YOU because YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Onward!!! emoticon

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    It's always strange to me that some people think they have a right to make negative comments about other people's appearance! Good for you that you don't let it get you down but instead are using it to make them eat their words! emoticon emoticon

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DWSCHUYLER 5/7/2013 6:37AM

    I will never understand people that comment on things that might hurt people, but good for you. Ignore it or embrace it, and keep moving on with what you know is right for you! emoticon emoticon

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TERRY0217 5/7/2013 6:36AM

    There is nothing like harsh words from co workers or sounds like you got fired up and you WILL conquer this are a strong determined person who will reach your goals...
Get out of my way world...I'm going to win this battle! emoticon emoticon

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BROOKLYN_BORN 5/7/2013 6:15AM

    You've got the right attitude about it. "You just watch!" I love that.

Hard as it is to hear the mean spirited words, even if they are true, it's just as damaging to hear:
Oh good, you're putting some meat on your bones
Don't worry about the weight. You can "carry it"
Or similar comments which may be well intentioned but often are thinly veiled "welcome back to the majority" club.

You know what you have to do and you have the determination to do it.
Hang in there.

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MARYJOANNA 5/7/2013 5:51AM

  Some people don't know when to keep their mouth shut!

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JSTETSER 5/7/2013 5:49AM

    Every day, I set my plan. I work to control the binge eating.
Try my "one kiss a day" plan!

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    I do understand where you are coming from. I had lost 70 pounds a couple of years ago and put it back on for multiple reasons. My broken ankle has kept me from exercising as I once did and with the stress my thyroid has acted up... I now have Hashimoto Thyroiditis that I did not have when I lost the weight. I am eating a lot more fruit and vegetables than when I first started with SP but it has not off set the not such good for me things I have eaten also.

Don't quite on yourself.


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MADLYINLOVE 5/6/2013 8:13PM

    It sure comes on a LOT faster than it left!


Day by Day -- you got it!!

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PARKERB2 5/6/2013 7:34PM

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