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Day 50: Things I hate to hear

Monday, May 06, 2013

I was at work the other day and someone said those words I have always heard "You have a pretty face"...silence follows...to me that means "insert comma here, BUT YOU NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT".....I'm not going to say that I have low self esteem or whatever...but I have been very depressed about weight in the past. Thinking "Is this why I'm still single, is this why I'm not as successful as I'd like to be"...so many what-ifs....Now I just have to continue to work on things.
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  • SPARKLE1908
    Unfortunately, a lot of people think they are "helping" someone when they make unsolicited comments or give unwarranted advice...you have to overlook them and consider the source...if they aren't someone that you love/care about, then their opinion doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things...yes it is annoying but you are beautiful and like was stated before, someone is sitting back wishing they had what you have....
    1749 days ago
    I know exactly how you feel. I always hear the same thing. I started work today and was a little self conscience during my initial interview. My boss offered to buy me lunch before I left. I ordered a chicken sandwich. He was like, do you want chili cheese fries? How about some cheese curds. I said do you see this as I motioned my hands from top to bottom. He chuckled and said oh come on. My wife was bigger than you and she was always happy. You should be happy too. HA! Well it did make me feel good to know that he accepted me as I am. So today I went to work with a feel good attitude and it went great.

    Some people just aren't happy unless they bring to our attention that we are FAT. They act like they don't think we know it. Really! You are beautiful inside and out. Don't let anyone ever tell you different.

    1749 days ago
  • KLL19144
    You guys are right....it's funny bc I was in such a good mood at the time and when she said that, I got that ill feeling again. This isn't going to be as easy as I thought, but I havent been at it too long either....I guess you want all your hard work at the gym to show and it hasn't been drastic yet. I know I shouldn't care what people think, and I'm still working on that :)
    1749 days ago
  • PURPLE180
    I agree with NIKKICOLE83's comment below...I have learned that some people talk without thinking. Don't let them get to you and don't think for one minute that you are anything less than perfect.

    And I agree, there is someone wishing they were your size. I was complaining about my weight one day around one of my sister in laws and she said that, "my fat is her skinny and that she would love to be my size." emoticon
    1749 days ago
    I have heard that my entire life and it used to really bother me. However, I've learned their perception of me doesn't matter. We have to learn to accept ourselves where we are to progress in this journey. You are a beautiful woman! Keep your head high and realize you deserve this!

    1749 days ago
    Don't fill in the blanks with negative self-talk. You are beautiful from the top of your head to the balls of your feet. Just know that there is someone else looking at you who wishes she was your size.
    1749 days ago
    I hate that one, never understood it, I'm either pretty or not, right? I'm sure the person meant to be complimentary but it is such a bad way to phrase it. I've been getting a lot of compliments on my appearance lately and while I appreciate them, part of me is like, "Well, what did you think of the way I looked before?" The people who really care about me, including and especially my husband, think I am beautiful all over no matter what.
    1749 days ago
    Everything takes time..Never dwell on negative commments..Let it Inspire U to make
    The changes that u feel u need..Anything can be achieved...If the Desire is there!
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    1749 days ago
    As one of your newest SparkFriends, I am so glad I get to comment on this one, because I am a self professed expert on the if I was this or that...Girl do you, be you....Please....this if I was smaller I would have a this that or the other is, let me see how can I put this since we just met....well its ahh...its bs....Yeah I said it...(in my Michael Baisden voice)...I sure hope you are at least smiling right now... in realationships, this is the time we live in...My thirty year old skinny sister goes thru it and she is my breasts too small, my teeth not white and my 22 and 20 year old daughters go thru it....

    ....I have a Master's degree and fighting student loans out the kazoo and making what I made twenty years ago

    don't worry be happy and be glad that you got that pretty face, it's gonna go quite nicely with that awesome body you working toward...and then you tell them...straight up...How ya like me Na?

    Be Blessed and Be Happy with what the Good Lord Gave ya!
    1749 days ago

    Comment edited on: 5/6/2013 1:44:17 PM
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