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Wondering How to Close the Door on the Past

Monday, May 06, 2013

On my walks I find myself thinking too much about what has been instead of what is and what can be.

I read a quote a while ago that goes something like this - "the past is good for textbooks, but it's no place to set up an address."

So I'm thinking that living in the past only makes me dwell on regrets, brings back memories of things I've done that either cause good feelings or bad feelings. But neither of those help me with the "now" I have to deal with.

I'm going to make a conscious effort to think ahead, but not too far ahead that it ends up being a figment of my imagination, but more of a plan for how to deal with the now and very near future.

I know the saying, "If you forget the past you are condemned to repeat it." So I have no plans to forget the past. I just don't want to walk with it arm-in-arm as I move forward. I want to put it away, like an old receipt from bills paid, you know? Write the bill, then put the receipt away.

I don't mean to be so convoluted here. I'm just looking for how to be faster about moving on, forgiving myself, and not muddying the floors with the mucky past stickin' to my boots.

If you have any ideas for how to help me 'move on' so to speak, I'd appreciate your advice.

Peace out,

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    I applaud you for this very thoughtful blog. It's very easy to rehash the past to the point of losing sight of the present and the future. One thing you can do to bring yourself back to the present is to simply ask yourself frequently, "What am I doing right NOW?" and that will bring your wandering mind back to the moment. From there, you can think about what you love and what you intend to have in your life - good health, etc. - and review your goals for the future, not from a place in the past, but from the moment forward. Good luck to you!
    1780 days ago
    I went through a process of journaling about my past and then took the parts that were really icky and had a 'burning' ceremony. I wrote a letter to my past and then burned it in a campfire and never looked back. It really helped...
    1781 days ago
  • 68ANNE
    You are looking to not live in the past but yet not forget it. Another thing comes to mind
    insanity-doing the same thing over and over yet expecting different results
    1782 days ago
    You could place this verse where you can see in on a daily basis:

    Philippians 3:13

    New International Version (NIV)

    13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead...
    1782 days ago
  • DELIA38961
    your right living in the past only hinders the present of its joy and the future of its hope ..its always good to learn the lesson and move on ..good luck on your journey
    1782 days ago
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