Sunday, May 05, 2013
Funny...but I went to two different weight watchers meetings this week and encountered two different approaches. On Tuesday, someone made the comment that they keep weight watchers a secret due to saboteurs. So many chimed in agreeing. On Thursday, someone proudly announced that their anchors were their family and friends. They were PROUD to share they were doing the program and everyone was so supportive. It kept her accountable. So many chimed in agreeing with her.
I must have bad family and friends. I have found it is better to keep silent and just do and not draw attention to myself with trying to compromise and rationalize in my head the choices that I make.
Yet....to be frank....that is NOT enough for me.
I love going to my meetings. That helps me ...help myself.
I realize that my anchors have changed in time as I have changed.
I also have come to the conclusion that I don't have to do this alone. It is an art, but it can be done. You have to find those that do.....and wish to do.
THere......I can proudly say........I have that. I have certain online teams and friends that love to share and support. When someone has a dilemma.....so many come forth with suggestions and support.
Naturally.....there is always someone that is .....a true Debbie Downer. You have to let them go. I have to let them go. They are poison to my mind. At first, I always feel.....guilty...because everyone needs a friend.......and yet.....the old saying comes to mind...in order to have a friend...you have to be a friend. Taking that one step further....you have to be a friend to yourself first and foremost.
Being in a good place sometimes seems so impossible with the intricate makeup of one's life's surroundings...and yet....with the right combinations ....not impossible and less daunting.