Friday, May 03, 2013
On Wed. I had to make the very difficult decision to send my Cat Son to his transition. He was a rescue when he was a kitten, then I rescued him when he was 18 mths due to the family being unable to keep him. I had almost lost him yrs ago to liver probs but he was saved. Unfortunately now his thyroid and kidneys are not functioning properly.
For most of his life he hated that we had other cats. He so wanted to be the only child, and was antisocial. During his liver issues he had stopped eating and I spent weeks tube feeding him. Officially he was my girlfriends child, but he bonded with me. So yrs later when she moved out, I got custody. LOL
After losing my 2 17 y/os a yr a part yrs ago, its been just him and I. He totally came out of his shell and became a whole different child. He brought me so much joy. I'm just happy that he was finally able to be that only child. I certainly did lavish him with treats, toys, and attention. LOL
Ok....... now I'll get to the point in the title.
I've done a few types of counselling with people, so am aware that they do and say the wrong things at the worst times. I'm well aware that its not always with ill intent. But I will never get used to how many people can be so insensitive when it comes to the loss of a pet / fur child.
What has happened to common decency and compassion in this world?
Here is a sampling of what I've been getting:
Sorry, why dont ya get a dog?
Look at the bight side, no more cat boxes!
I got a bunch of kittens, want me to bring you one?
Whats the big deal, you can get another one at the pound!
I cant believe you would compare losing a cat to the loss of a child!
And these comments come from people that are supposed to care about me!
It seems that so far the only people showing any compassion are the Medical staff, Crematory Staff, my ex, and my online friends that Ive never met.
Im not surprised. I mean really, look at how people treat people.
I guess Im just ranting because it hurts, and I feel like I have to suffer that pain in silence. So I hope that in putting my pain out to the world, ONE person may think twice when faced with a loved ones loss of a pet.
Its understandable if you dont know what to do or say. A simple, "Im sorry for your loss or pain" would be just fine. Or even just a quick, "Im sorry man".
Please think before you speak!
RIP Old Rocky Man, Daddy Loves You!