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Friday, May 03, 2013

So I saw this guy last year named Hunter and we broke it off when he refused to give up the bachelor life for me. Somehow, after I broke up with my boyfriend, Hunter and I rekindled things. But there's the same problem all over again.

Last year I asked him out and he said no. He was very nice about it but now I'm totally scared to death to do it again but I'm scared he's seeing other girls too. I'm a very smart person and I don't want to cry over him again. But I'm very attracted to him in a lot of different ways. I feel we could be very good as boyfriend and girlfriend.

Any advice you could offer will be great sparkbuddies!

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HEALTHYLU1 5/5/2013 8:02AM

    It is not obvious why he would be attractive with your history as a couple. It does not seem that anything has changed.

Whichever way you end up going with this however, we will be at your back and your side cheering you on (or keeping our mouths shut if that is what is required).


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IMAVISION 5/4/2013 11:06AM

    If I am reading this right -

Y'all dated - broke up - rekindled the relationship with the same concern resurfacing - then last year you asked Hunter out - he refused.

If those are the facts - it seems pretty evident that Hunter's refusal was strike three being struck.

Please don't waste the moments of your life trying to reconnect with Hunter or waiting around for him to change his mind.

While you are mooning over this guy, you just may miss the one the good Lord has planned for you.

Another "please" is for the future - please do not always think of Hunter as the perfect guy - he is not & considering him so will only have you judging other men by your "rose colored glasses" view of him. That would be so unfair - on all levels.

God bless!

P.S. I was tickled to read how you started out with a "So" - our eldest does the same - tickling me each time she does so! emoticon

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    Here's what my husband of 25.75 years says about this situation:

If Hunter wanted the same kind of relationship (a serious one) that you do, he would move heaven and earth to be by your side and you would be the sole person he was interested in and he would want to make sure you were his and he was yours. Don't settle. Move on.

Here's what I say:

Set your sights on being happy with yourself and knowing exactly what you want in a partner so that when the right one comes along you will recognize it.

A couple girls turned my husband down for a date solely because they didn't think his clothes, hair or glasses were "cool" enough - all things that any smart girl should have been able to see past, like I did, to the goodness and faithfulness deep inside him.

I did my work. I made a short list of all the things a man would have to be for me to be interested and wouldn't you know the very next man that I encountered was "the one"!

If it's meant to be it's meant to be and everything will come together.

My husband asked me to marry him on our second date... and we were married six months later. I was the one who had trust issues and he has never once done anything to cause me to doubt his love for me. He has done everything he told my parents he would (and so much more) when he asked them permission to marry me.

Fast forward to us getting ready to celebrate our 26th Anniversary this June.


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SHERIO5 5/3/2013 11:56PM

    Oh, I feel your pain! Been there.

Just realize, you aren't going to change Hunter. If he is still wanting to be a bachelor, can your heart take it, or will you always be hoping for him to change?


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    Maybe you should consider working at being happy/contented with yourself, then add friends into the mix. Remember others cannot make you happy, that has to come for within yourself.... they can do a very good job of making you unhappy, if you allow it.
How did that quote go???
It said you should not make someone a priority that treats you as optional.
That isn't the exact quote, but as close as I can get right now.
Please, Value yourself.

Comment edited on: 5/3/2013 9:05:09 PM

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JMB2LOSE 5/3/2013 6:53PM

  Follow your head (not your heart); and your head is telling you to keep looking for Mr. Right.

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TWEETYKC00 5/3/2013 6:10PM

    if he can't be with you and accept you totally, then find someone else. You deserve better than a maybe.

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