Friday, May 03, 2013
Last night after work, and watching TV the phone rang. It was DH's brother in law, he was calling to let us know that DH's younger brother by 6 years had passed away. Two years ago this brother had a shunt put in his head, told he had a bad heart and diabetes. He was told not to drink beer or other alcohol . Last night he was with his adult son and they were drinking beer, the son was also taking drugs when the brother (Andy) died.
Last night all DH could talk about was playing ball with his little brother when he came home from the Army. Talking with his sister this morning we found out that Andy didn't have any insurance and she is wondering how the family can bury him-we are all on fixed incomes. This is all I know right now. The sister is to call me later today after she talks to the funeral home. To add to this a neice put on facebook that Andy died of a drug overdose which is untrue. The son is angry, and in denial as to what has happened. He first told everyone that Dad was sleeping.
Update: the niece has changed her facebook post. Andy's remains may, if his son agrees, be sent to a medical school and there would be no cost to the family. Another niece has offered her home for a memorial service. Things will be finalized Monday. Thanks everyone for your prayers
Update: No one has heard from Andy's son, so things are still on hold. DH's sister is just waiting until something is decided, either the son or the VA or both so she can move forward and get things taken care of. She is the one in the family that takes care of everything and the family is ok with that but they also expect her to be a"mind reader" and do what they want. DH and the youngest brother are the only ones that have called to help or give her support.