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Eyes On Your Own Plate!

Thursday, May 02, 2013

I emoticon this concept! Think about it -- how many times as a "dieter" (using this term loosely) have I compared the way I eat to the way someone else eats? Countless! It is easy to get wrapped up in it all.

Low carb.
Weight watchers.
Low fat.
Calorie cycling.
Carb cycling.
Cabbage soup.
Clean eating.
Gluten free.
Dairy free.


the list goes on and on and on and on. Constantly, we are bombarded with what is the next best way to eat. Paleo seems to be the hot thing now. EVERYone is going paleo seems like these days. A few years from now, it will be yet another trend in the industry.

Just saying.....

Back in the 90's low fat was the golden child. Then low carb was the way to go. Then clean eating. Now paleo.

Fads. Fashions of the industry. Because a guru or two says it is the way to go, we jump on board and plunge into yet another form of eating. Granted, I understand that sometimes there is a very necessary reason to eat a certain way (I have a SIL who has celiac's and there is a VERY good reason for her to GF) and sometimes we find ways that we simply PREFER to eat, I would put myself in this category. I know that there are ways that I prefer to eat and ways that I feel more full and have more energy, no crashes during the day, etc.

I don't claim to be "on a diet" but I sometimes feel the need to put myself in a box or a classification of eating. I have gone rounds of obsession with foods, borderline orthorexia (I don't care what anyone says, it is a disorder). A form of screwed up thinking in relation to food.

As part of the Eating the Food group, they have a rule on there of "eyes on your own plate" and I LOVE IT! It is so comfortable, there is no judgement on eating styles or types. I wish this kind of mentality can be employed all over as I do see it quite often here on SP. Food snobs. Hell, I have been one as well, as much as I wish I could say I haven't, I have. I have passed judgement on others eating styles. I feel at times there is a shame involved with a person's eating style. Fingers wag at the mention of a Big Mac or a slice of bread or whatever doesn't fit a certain 'style'. I am to a point now of wanting to nurture myself and my overall relationship with food and body image that I am really wanting to break out of that elusive mold that I have been guilty of putting myself in over and over be it pseudo paleo, low calorie, clean eating, what the eff ever. It ends up being less about the food and just another form of obsession.

Applying the eyes on the own plate mentality is such an amazing idea. I like the notion of being nicer to myself and not so concerned with the petty things. Anymore, I am all about wanting to simplify my life and be a happier person. Getting too wrapped up in the labels puts such great internal pressure on me that it just isn't worth it to me anymore. The simplicity of "just eating" has gone completely by the wayside. I want it back, it isn't something I have had since I was a teenager, effortlessly maintained a healthy weight and didn't obsess over food. All that changed when I embarked on my first round of restrictive eating after I had my daughter. I am tired of the numbers and just want to focus on the important things in life. I have so much external pressures on me in day to day life that adding in the internal pressures is about to send me over the edge most days.

I am finished. I am ready to keep my eyes on my own plate and not feel shame, guilt, remorse or apologetic for my eating style. I have my goals that I hope to accomplish with my fitness, but I no longer want to feel the need to put myself in a classification of an "eating type". I will focus on getting in boatloads of protein and other whole foods but if I want a slice of bread, I am going to have the damn slice of bread. If I want a glass of wine, booya! There is my glass of wine. If I want a beer (or two), no apologies. No guilt. No remorse. Keeping my focus on health and eating foods that work well for me, but no more feeling like I have to justify to myself why it is okay to enjoy once in awhile the pleasures of eating certain things. Just as long as I am not going overboard, which I don't, rarely do I overindulge or overeat, but sometimes when I sit to watch a movie with my husband or watch basketball on tv, I feel the need to justify to myself why it is okay to have popcorn (or that beer or whatever) when I know in my mind that 90% of the time I am eating stellar foods.

Just saying.
The common sense diet.
It keeps coming back.
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    I totally love this mindset too. It is so hard, especially with so many different types of diets to get wrapped up with what people eat. I got stressed at a bootcamp because I was uncertain what I suppose to be eating to fit in to the program- just so tricky.

    Much easier, and probably healthier, to mind my own meals, and just work on it. I think you are going to do awesome!
    1779 days ago
    I so agree. I am Gluten Free (celiac's) and it really gets on my last nerve when people proceed to complain that I am picky and that it is not a big deal but I am even more offended when others at the lunch take decide to take someone to task for easting some thing that they think is "wrong." Its a burger/slice of cake/chowder/etc whatever... people should be allowed to do what works for them and their body type without the food Nazis weighing in. Thanks a million for your analysis. It is on point. emoticon
    1779 days ago
  • MISSG180
    That's brilliant.
    1779 days ago
    Yes, AGREE with all that you said! And you put it very well.
    Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and observations.
    1779 days ago
    Awesome thoughts!
    1779 days ago
    emoticon I Love It also!! So many feelings would be spared if everyone followed that rule.
    1779 days ago
  • JUSTME29
    I just wish other people would also practice "eyes on their own plate". There was a whole discussion at the lunch table today where one coworker was gently ribbing another for a snack. I ended up sucked into the conversation (rolling eyes) but I just wanted to say exactly that "eyes on your own plate".
    1780 days ago
    I LOVE THIS!!!!
    1780 days ago
    I think this is perfect! This is just how I am eating now, I believe. I try to eat all whole foods and I keep carbs low, which means you could describe my eating style as eating clean or paleo. But I don't stress out over an occasional bite of chocolate tart, the white rice in sushi or even a few ounces of fried chicken! I understand that my diet needs to be comprised of mostly whole foods, plant foods and lean proteins but I also get that life is for living and some meals won't be perfect. I am not on a diet but I try to think sensibly about food. emoticon
    1780 days ago
  • AWOLF24
    I love this mindset. People have all sorts of reasons for eating how/what they do/don't eat. And no one knows those reasons except the person eating, and it is no one else's business!! Where I work in particular, there seems to be a lot of verbal commentary on what/how people are eating, and it makes me very uncomfortable. Great blog and I AGREE!!!
    1780 days ago
    Great analysis, Amber! And so important. We're all individuals and what works for one of us isn't going to work for all of us, or even some of us.

    It must be one of those "great minds" moments, because I was writing something similar this morning. ;-) In my case, it's more letting myself LIVE life this time - in terms of eating, exercising, everything. I'm not "trying" so hard, and I'm getting better results.

    AND I'm happy.

    AND I'm feeling great.

    So there! emoticon emoticon
    1780 days ago
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