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Choices and Saying No

Wednesday, May 01, 2013

I was a people pleaser in my career. I wanted to succeed as a technology director and also as a teacher. I was a perfectionist. I wanted my life ordered as much as possible.

Now I am true to me and God. I go to prayer in times of doubt, uncertainty, and fear. I find solace in meditation and walking a labyrinth. I try to consider all sides of an issue. My life is calmer and more peaceful.

I am no longer a perfectionist. I cannot cure me or Bob of chronic illnesses, but I can make us more comfortable. The magic wand was learning to say NO. I can have time to rest. I can shop for groceries another day if I get tired.

Ironically it is surgery and a chronic illness that freed me from pleasing others and having unrealistic demands on myself.. I am sincere with people and still do much for organizations, church and friends.

I do not multi-task as much. Peaceful is good.
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    I am still on the treadmill, but I can honestly say it was never my aim to have an ordered life!
    There are frequent times when I wish I was better at making things ordered, or more to the point, that the order fairy would wave a wand and make things ordered with no effort on my part.

    1667 days ago
  • KERRYG155
    I totally agree with your new way of life and always wonder why it takes us so long to figure it out. Sure would be nice if we could take the short journey to get there but then I guess we wouldn't have learned anything. Keep up the good job you're doing taking care of yourself and Bob.
    1668 days ago
    I agree with you wholeheartedly! Enjoyed your blog! emoticon emoticon
    1668 days ago
  • TLG71567
    Things happen for a reason. We may not understand it or like it at the time, but if we embrace the change and try to find the good in it, then good will indeed come from it. It sounds like you have learned this lesson well. Enjoy your new found calm.
    1668 days ago
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