Choices and Saying No
Wednesday, May 01, 2013
I was a people pleaser in my career. I wanted to succeed as a technology director and also as a teacher. I was a perfectionist. I wanted my life ordered as much as possible.
Now I am true to me and God. I go to prayer in times of doubt, uncertainty, and fear. I find solace in meditation and walking a labyrinth. I try to consider all sides of an issue. My life is calmer and more peaceful.
I am no longer a perfectionist. I cannot cure me or Bob of chronic illnesses, but I can make us more comfortable. The magic wand was learning to say NO. I can have time to rest. I can shop for groceries another day if I get tired.
Ironically it is surgery and a chronic illness that freed me from pleasing others and having unrealistic demands on myself.. I am sincere with people and still do much for organizations, church and friends.
I do not multi-task as much. Peaceful is good.