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Wedding/work/and procrastination


Wednesday, May 01, 2013

We are not going to have the wedding of our dreams. This is because we simply do not have the money and simple things like feeding people are expensive. I'm a 32 yr old grad student I make less than $15k a year. He fully supports us and with our bills/rent etc. we just won't be able to save more than 3k for the wedding.

When the average wedding is 10k it is hard not to get depressed. I don't really want to spend a lot, but food costs money and we have about 200 people we want to invite. I know I'll figure it all out, but it is still depressing.

I've talked to a few women who have told me that no wedding is perfect. One woman said she 'hated' her wedding. Nothing went right, she didn't like her dress, too many people came, etc. etc. But this woman also confided that she spent 30k on her wedding!! This is just crazy to me. First that she spent that much, and second that she hated the whole thing.

(NO judgement if you spent over 10k on your wedding, it just isn't something I'm willing to do. I've always been a bargain shopper, I buy clothing at thrift stores, I like to do things myself. I mean I use Sparkpeople because I don't want to spend money on Weight Watchers and I hike instead of having a gym membership. I understand that many people are not like me and think second hand clothing is gross. I don't aim to disparage people who were able to spend lots of money on their weddings.)

If I had $30,000 I would pay off my student loans. Or spend $5000 on the wedding and use the other 25k as the beginnings of a house fund.

I don't really know what I'm complaining about. I guess it is that I'm sick of being a poor grad student, but I'm unable to quit and just get a decent job. I'm already invested in this endeavor.

Now I need to get to work grading papers and stop this procrastination.

I've lost 1.5 lbs since last week. This is good. :)
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FIRECOM 5/13/2013 12:22PM

    Priorities! Important aren't they? When we got married (56 years ago) is was all done by a lot of people helping where every they could. Seemed to work out OK for us.

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KATIEBACH 5/2/2013 9:40AM

    One of the nicest weddings I have ever attended was a simple outside wedding, potluck reception and fun socializing into the night. Your friends and relatives will be more than happy to have it potluck and just enjoy your happiness and seeing everyone.

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JEN_ORR 5/1/2013 8:26PM

  We spent abou 8k on our wedding and while it was a lovely day, I would way have preferred to have something small or have just eloped.

There are great dresses on eBay, amazon, heck the goodwill site too. All that matters is that it's a dress you are happy in.



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ROBYNROSE26 5/1/2013 5:10PM

    Maybe with your budget you could have a simple ceremony with a coctail party or BBQ? Most of your friends and family are more interested in sharing your special moment with you than having an elaborate and expensive party! $3000 can go a long way to your dream day!

Good Luck!

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57OLDS 5/1/2013 4:41PM

  Not a big wedding does a marriage make! If you find the right man, keep him... a wedding is just one day of your life. You can still have a nice day with your closest friends and family. Look into each other's eyes as you are saying your vows,that is what the day is all about. Treat each other with and respect each day and love each other with all your heart...that's marriage! Best of luck...

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