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Day 485- The trouble with compliments

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

I've lost almost 25 lbs since January 1st, 2013. Not only has my boyfriend and close family noticed, my friends and other people in the same classes at school have noticed. Just today, I received two compliments on how good I've been looking and commenting on my weight loss. Another friend told me how people were talking about how much weight I've lost recently.

Yes, I feel great about people noticing and telling me I look good. However, I question how heavy I looked before. Did I really let myself gain that much weight? I know I've lost weight and am getting closer to my goal weight, but I still feel like I have a lot of work to do until I finally consider myself in shape. I don't think I'm in shape yet, but everyone keeps saying how much better I look than before.

So, I have mixed feelings about people commenting on my weight. Glad that people notice and I'm more in shape, but not sure how to take that I looked worse before.

Anyone have any feedback on this?

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ADZY86 5/8/2013 12:58PM

    This is so me! I know we should just accept the compliment, but I'm always second-guessing what they're really thinking! It's also part of the reason I don't tell hardly anybody that I'm trying to lose weight; it kinda draws attention to the fact that I'm big! Or I don't like to discuss how much weight I've lost, because then I feel people are thinking 'well what a lazy greedy person she was to be that big in the first place!' It's so hard. But you've lost 25lbs and that's huge so you should definitely work on accepting and embracing all those compliments that should be coming your way. Well done

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BOBCATGIRL76 5/7/2013 9:34PM

  I'm the exact same way! I love getting compliments, but I always second guess how big I used to be and no one said anything. But I always just try to be appreciative of people recognizing my hard work and forget about the past. Also, I love your prom picture. My fiance was my date to senior prom...6 years ago. And we're obviously still going strong. So I wish you the same happiness :)

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CHANGINGSAM 5/1/2013 10:04AM

    I agree with LILMEGSTAR. Don't allow the compliments to hold you back. Let those positives fuel your new lifestyle. No matter how you feel about the past, you can't change it. You can only change the future. emoticon

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RUNNING-TURTLE 5/1/2013 8:55AM

    Just accepting the fact that you were bigger than you intended yourself to be. And that you are proud of yourself for taking the steps to become a healthier you. *HUGS* You will get used to it.

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LILMEGSTAR 4/30/2013 8:06PM

    I feel the same way about compliments - and not just about my weight. I remember one day I actually took the time to do my hair nicely and do my makeup before work, and one of the guys I works with goes " ur looking hot today, whats the occasion?" and I just turned around and said "what, do I look that hideous every other day?" And it really made my stop and take stock of the fact that I don't really TRY every other day, so when I do try, then yes, I look that MUCH better.

I think it is just because we don't want to see the bad in ourselves, so when people comment on how good we look, it makes us reflect on how they "normally" see us - in your case, losing 25 lbs and having people comment on it, makes you really think about how you looked before - its uncomfortable!

It might help to think of it in this way - they are not commenting on how heavy you were, but how good you look NOW - think of your 25 lb loss like a new dress, or a new hairstyle, and when people compliment you or tell you you look good, just smile and say "thank you". You don't have to back think (though like I said, we all do it!) just appreciate the compliment and take it at face value - you wouldn't get insulted when someone compliments you on a gorgeous dress, or a really awesome pair of jeans!!

I hope I helped some! emoticon

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