Should my feelings be hurt?
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
So my oldest daughter is a senior in high school this year and is getting ready for prom and graduation. I have been trying to do things to make it memorable for her, but she doesn't seem to acknowledge my efforts.
For example, I asked her what she wanted to do for her 18th birthday (which is in July) and she said she didn't want to have a party, that she planned on going to the beach with her friends. She said we could have a graduation party for her instead. That is actually a good idea because we are limited to only ten people being able to go to her graduation and we have a lot more family than that, so a graduation party would be a great way to get everyone together to celebrate her achievement. She graduates on a Thursday, so I scheduled the party for that Friday. I made up the graduation party invitations at work and brought them home last weekend. When she saw them, I didn't get the reaction I was looking for. Instead of, "Cool, a graduation party! I can't wait!" She said, "I don't want a party. Why are you doing this??" I reminded her that she said to do a graduation party instead of a birthday party and she said, "Well, you can have a party but I may not be here!" Now, this was her initial reaction. Soon after that I could tell she was behind the idea because she got on to PowerPoint and made up her own graduation party invitations (which kinda hurt my feelings that she didn't like or appreciate what I had done but I didn't say anything). She made a list of friends she wanted to invite to the party, which combined with the list of people I had already put on the invitation list, is going to make for a pretty big party. Crisis averted.
Regarding prom, she and I had planned to take the day off together (me from work, her from school) and I was going to take her to a salon in Dallas to get her hair and make-up done. Well, then she found out that the school is only going to give out prom tickets on the day of the prom so she has to go to school that day in order to be able to go to prom. She was pretty disappointed about that. She had decided to go to a friend's house to have her do my daughter's hair and make-up instead. Then last night she tells me that her Aunt Ashley (my sister-in-law) called and offered to pay to have Tori's hair and make-up done after school on the day of prom. If I would have known that my daughter wanted to do this (time will be limited so I am not sure how this is going to work) I would have arranged it. I called my local hairdresser today and made an appointment to take my daughter on Saturday to talk with her about how she wants her hair done so my daughter can decide if she wants to have her do her hair. If not, there is probably someone else in the salon who can do it for her. I texted my daughter to tell her I made the appointment, and instead of "Thanks, Mom" I got, "WHAT? I told you Aunt Ashley was taking me to get my hair and make-up done."
She's not normally this spoiled, but I don't know what to think. She has been a pretty good teenager up to this point. I don't want to lose her now! I welcome any words of advice from my Sprak Friends...