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Tuesday, April 30, 2013

I honestly am to the point of giving up! I feel like I spend more time getting back on track only to fall off again! Why do I sabatoge myself? Why can't I stay motivated? Why do I let life get in the way? Why do I care so much about other people and their success, but I don't care enough about my own? I have been asking myself these questions a lot lately. I don't really know the answers. Things have been so crazy, and out of control the last few months, and I have been dealing with some stress at work, that just when I think I am back on track BAM life smacks me in the face again. Then I lose myself in food, start feeling guilty, get back on track, only to be right back where I was. I know my big issue is that I am an emotional eater. I let things get to me too easily, and then I cave to temptations. I recently ordered some books off Amazon for emotional eating, I just need to find the time to sit down and start reading and working thru this issue, one day at a time. I just need to work on ME for once! I know that I am worth it, but some days I don't feel like I am.

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SISTERPRETTY 4/30/2013 11:39PM

    emoticon emoticon if at first yoy don't succeed try, try again...don't give up emoticon

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KACAR51 4/30/2013 7:03PM

    You deserve the best for yourself! Take that time for yourself to read your new books! You will feel better when you realize that you are not alone!
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KIWINURSE 4/30/2013 3:33PM

    Hi there, my fb friend emoticon

I hear you! That is right where I have been lately too! But today I came back to SP because I know that I can do it with the support on here! I have reset my ticker and I am going to do this! I think that we set ourselves up with big goals and when I do not achieve it or fall off, I give up! I am now the heaviest I have ever been and I don't like it!

I am now giving up on all the quick fixes and gimmicks, back to healthy eating and paying attention to what I am eating.

Hang in there, buddy, maybe we could support each other?

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Christine

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BABY_GIRL69 4/30/2013 3:23PM

    I am one of those people but I find that if we continually take inventory/stock of our lives we can maintain and keep the weight OFF permanently. When we reach goal then we slack off but we should still be standing on the scale or watching when our clothes tighten up on us.....

God bless & be encouraged we all go through this.....

Dee

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SANDY1969 4/30/2013 12:47PM

    I never wanted to be one of "those" people that you always read about...that lost weight, then gained it, then lost it, then gained it, or those that restarted every single month. Sometimes though you just ARE that person because of what life hands you.

Sometimes I feel discouraged that although I started 3 years ago, the last 2 have been spent struggling with the same 25-30 pounds. But I did START and I am in a far better place than I was 3 years ago.

Not only weight wise but health wise. I have educated myself, even though sometimes the following through part is HARD. Instead of my go to soda I drink a lot more water. That in itself in monumental because it made me so much more healthier.

One change, get it down, then make another.

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ARCHIMEDESII 4/30/2013 12:39PM

    Anika,

Even though you've been a long time member, I give all new members one piece of advice and it's this,"Don't look at good health or weight loss with an all or nothing mentality". If the only healthy thing you did for yourself today was drink 8 glasses of water, that's still a step in the right direction. Good health isn't all or nothing. Every little bit really does make a difference. So, don't beat yourself up because you're not perfect. In fact, don't try to be perfect. you don't have to be perfect to be healthy.

Personally, I'm a firm believer that stress is a neglected aspect of weight gain. If a person could reduce their stress, they'd automatically reduce their waistline. So, what I'm going to recommend to you is do your best to reduce your stress. Find ways to vent your frustrations that don't involve food. Whenever I feel stressed out, I blog or I take a walk. Walking is not only terrific cardiovascular exercise, it's a great way to reduce your stress.

Have you ever considered taking yoga ? If you've never done yoga, I highly recommend it. There are many beginner classes you can take. Age, size or ability don't matter. A good instructor can show you pose modifications when you need it. Don't worry, you don't have to stand on your head.

I find some of the breathing exercises I learned in yoga to be very helpful in calming me down when I'm upset. Studies have shown that meditation can help lower your blood pressure and your stress. So, you might want to check your area for a good yoga studio and see what they offer. It might be helpful.

Remember, be kind to yourself as you would to others.


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SUMTHINGSPECIAL 4/30/2013 12:33PM

    You are absolutely worth it - and don't forget it! Life is hard - and often there will be things that stand in our way. We make mistakes - we learn - we overcome those problems and then more come along. Over time - we can make ourselves stronger - less likely to succumb to temptation - but we have to take it one step at a time first.

We all would love to have this game beaten after the first step - okay - I'm interested in being healthy so now I should not ever be tempted by ___. The problem is, it just isn't that easy. We have to build ourselves up - piece by piece.

So, set reasonable goals - small goals that will take you to your bigger goals. Take it one day at a time. You mess up? Fine, pick yourself up and go again. You CAN do this. Don't expect perfection from yourself out of the gate - and don't expect it when you are at your goal weight. We are not supposed to be perfect - but we can do our best. I think sometimes our expectations are what make us fail.

So, instead - if you make it a goal to work out 3 times this week - it would be best to set aside specific days. Then, when you miss Monday - you don't have to beat yourself up about it - work out on Tuesday instead to make up for Monday. This way, you have a more reasonable goal - and you also have a way to make up on those days you make a mistake. Then - remember to celebrate what you achieve - shout it to the world - I drank enough water this week people, I am awesome!

It takes little steps - but you can do this. Just don't give up before you start the race.

Sumay

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IACTA_ALEA_EST 4/30/2013 12:25PM

    Isnt the hardest thing to admit you need help? Emotional eating is wicked tough, and you may be more successful with a counselor to disable those events in your life that hold you back.

but worth it? Yah, you are worth it gorgeous. And the more you practice the easier it will get. Been there. It DOES get easier to love yourself and let your choices show it.

NEVER GIVE UP! Rant any time, but never give up!
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STARPESCADO 4/30/2013 10:50AM

    I think the fact that even if U fall off track - you get back on - some ppl just give up completely - is awesome!

It is easy to get caught up in other ppl's problems/drama but at some point we have to put ourselves first in our lives - if we don't who will?


Hope U feel better about your plan and all the best to you - you can do this!!!!

Huggies!

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PAMDAQTPI 4/30/2013 10:34AM

    I think you should try to plan an alternative way of dealing with your emotions. And then write it out and re-read it every day when you wake up and any time you're feeling stressed.

"I used to (write bad habit here), but now I (write alternative here)."

I did this myself. One of my sentences is: "I used to order pizza when I was too lazy to cook, but now I pre-chop my veggies when I get home from the store so that they are always one hand for a quick salad."

Remind yourself that you "used to" be like that "but now" you're different.

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SPARKLINGHOPE 4/30/2013 10:12AM

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JESSERMOVICK 4/30/2013 9:51AM

    You have to learn to say no to other people. That was the hardest thing for me. Saying no to others to MAKE time for yourself. You are worth it! Always letting stress get to me and feeding my face to mask the pain of the stress. I am still working on it, but I ask myself what is stressing me, can I change the stressing factor, and go from there. It doesn't always work yet, but I will keep trying. emoticon Do not give up on yourself. You are WORTH IT!

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SLEEPERELLA 4/30/2013 9:48AM

    I am there at this point in my life too! Just know that YOU are worth it! Set small goals, then achieve those small victories. You've got this!

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KESTRYLL 4/30/2013 9:29AM

    You are certainly worth it but you are not alone. I feel the same about my weight loss journey. Good luck and try to find time to read those books! Take care, my friend.

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STEPHANIE302013 4/30/2013 9:25AM

    you've got the right idea - you have to do this for YOU - no one else. I found that I cared too much about how well other people were doing in their weight loss journeys - they I decided - I'm not going to compare - I'm going to use them as motivation! If they could do it - why not me? Take the time to PM people you see succeeding and ask for help, tips, advice - anything that can get your spark going :) You'll do this and you'll be great!

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