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Does Tough love work?


Monday, April 29, 2013

Recently I have been getting "tough" with my self not the kind of being tough with my self like self deprivation or being really hard on my by saying negative things to my self .. but more like .. Calling attention to order.. I know all to well when I am
being to sloppy with my eating or my working out or even my motivation..
and I know when it starts.. I start to have that "Oh Blank it" attitude.. and that is when things get bad, I start to make excused or blame it on this or that for the reason why I am not doing well or sticking to a work out or sticking to my eating clean..

But I have gotten better at recognizing when I am starting to display all of the above and that is when I have the "tough love" talk with my self.. and I may say to my self

Come on Anita is this what you want? do you really want to keep eating like this or keep feeling like crap? do you really want to no go for that walk or bike ride?

I also say to my self when things are going good.."way to go" you did great, come on Anita keep pushing keep going you got this.. (I say that more when I am on the treadmill and I have to do two straight minutes of jogging at 4.5.....

So if I can take tough love from my self could I take tough love from someone other them my self? would It offend me if someone "called attention" to my excuse making or whining or complaining? I don't think so.. matter of fact I would welcome it..
yes it may hurt to hear the truth and yes the truth hurts.. sometimes it dose take another set of yes ears to here I am not seeing or hearing..

So.. if ever you hear me complain or whine or make excused.. go ahead send me some tough love.. because let's face it...if it is not challenging you then it is not changing you..

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HILLSLUG98239 5/1/2013 11:41AM

    I call that voice my inner coach. Sometimes it's kind of mean ("Quit being a punk! You know you can do this - now quit whining and go do it!"). Usually it's encouraging and reminding me of my strengths.

I'm strong enough to tell myself I did something stupid (like ate a donut just because I was bored and it was there) without internalizing a message that I am stupid. It took me a very long time to get that strong, though.

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MISSG180 5/1/2013 9:23AM

    Tough love is just that--tough. I don't like being called on my bull, and I will get very huffy and pouty. But in the end it usually gets me moving and changing. If my husband or my daughter say, "Shouldn't you be...?" and my answer is a calm, "No, I planned for this," then I don't get upset. If I find myself getting upset, then I generally know that I've been lying to myself.

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LUCKYDOGFARM 5/1/2013 2:55AM

    I love that last line, if its not challenging you, its not changing you. a great reminder! thanks so much for your honesty! you are always great at that. keeping it real!

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DATMAMA4 4/30/2013 11:14PM

    Well-said! I need to give myself the occasional tough-love talks, and I'm always glad when I listen to myself and do the right thing.

I've also had others here on SP gently tell me the things I need to hear, and it's always an encouragement to know that others are rooting for me to do well.

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HOPERISING 4/30/2013 12:54AM

    Hehehe, I always pout for a little bit if I am on the receiving end of some "tough love". But after I have had my pity party, I pull up my socks and get to work. A new month is on the horizon... I love a new month for a fresh start! Lets make it happen with a clean slate!

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JANETRIS 4/29/2013 9:28PM

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[that's my version of tough love!]

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