When I was ~300 lbs I didn't WANT to be noticed. But I was. People would turn around and look when my butt knocked clothes off racks and stuff off shelves. They harumphed when I stuck my butt in their face as I navigated my way to a table in restaurants and climbed over them to a theater seat. They were visibly annoyed and almost panicked when I made my way to sit in the airplane seat next to them.
Now that I'm 87 lbs lighter, my youngest dd tells me I look 'medium'. WTH does THAT mean???
It means people that didn't know me at 300lbs don't think twice about me in the above situations. They don't comment on my size or appearance. I just blend in with the crowd. Sometimes I want to shout "LOOK AT ME!!! I've lost 87 lbs!!!!"
On the other hand, I have a love/hate reaction to the people that DID know me at 300lbs.
Sometimes I LOVE the fuss and compliments and attention.
Sometimes well meaning remarks come out stupid - One long time guy friend of DH saw me a few sizes ago and just laughed and laughed saying he just couldn't believe it. He said I looked good in a way that he was amazed that I didn;t fail. And then he said that now I could fit better in my Mustang. WOW. I just kindof laughed along, but thought 'What a JERK!"
Sometimes people don't say anything and I wonder if I really don't look that different.
My dad and DH fall into this category. Since they are tops on my list for approval, it's been a bit weird. My dad is 88 years old and into his own thing and friends at his assisted (aka 'cruise ship') living apt, so I understand and let that one go.
But DH??? He never gave his opinion about me having WLS. He always said it was my body, my decision and he loves me the way I am. As the pounds fell off, he never said anything. Finally I badgered him about why he never comments and he said 'I thought if I said how good you look, you would stop trying.'
DUH! I told him it DOESN'T work that way!!! Other men commenting on my weight loss and appearance and looking at me makes me uncomfortable. I told him that HIS opinion is the only one I cared about and want to hear. HIS opinion motivates me to do better and more and stay on track.
Then I turned around, stuck my butt out and said 'Now isn't this the sexiest @$$ you've EVER seen???! And the answer BETTER BE YESSSSS!!!'
We both cracked up laughing!!!