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Sunday, April 28, 2013

I wanted to stop by and give you all an update. I have been overwhelmed by emotion at the support and prayers my Sparkfamily has sent me. As some of you know, I am not a religious person. However, I am spiritual and have a strong faith in the power of God, whether He chooses to use it or not. Times like these inevitably cause us to question His influence in and over our lives.

My father has led a full and rich life, during which he touched the hearts and souls of so many people. It has surprised me how many "strangers" have come to see him at the bedside and reminisced at his positive influence in their lives. This accident has robbed us of a wonderful soul. He is still in a coma and has not made any notable progress toward recovery. The doctors who have the courage to tell us the truth say that he has very little chance of recovering to the point of being able to communicate. They say he will most likely require a feeding tube, breathing assistance and nursing home care for the rest of his life. I know this is not what he would have wanted. He made that known.

The problem is another set of doctors are quite a bit more wishy washy. They don't say he has a good chance of recovery, but they won't say he has a poor chance of recovery. They simply say, "everyone is different." My life has been in constant turmoil. As a family, my mom, siblings, extended family, we are strong and leaning heavily on one another.

My mom is strongest by far. She is recovering wonderfully and will likely be transferred to the rehab facility within the next couple of days. Mom is determined to make a rapid and full recovery. I know she hasn't realized the full implications of this situation yet. I'm not sure I have either.

I'm taking things one day at a time. I'm blessed to have an employer who is understanding and supportive. The next few days will be hell for me. At this point the miracle I am searching for is peace and forgiveness.

As you can imagine, I haven't exercised since Tuesday and my eating has been blown out of the water. Emotional eating at its finest. I won't apologize for my lack of participation on Spark or in my challenges, because I know you all understand.

I don't need or want advice on the decisions that face us right now. Thank you, but this something we have to middle through on our own. Please respect my wishes on this.

Your support and prayers reflect the loving spirits within each of you.

Much love and thanks to all of you.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MSEMBERSTORM 5/1/2013 11:42PM

    Hugs and Prayers!

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SIMONEKP 5/1/2013 2:54PM

    Thinking of you. I know your family will the decision that is best for all of you.

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67YKCEB 5/1/2013 9:09AM

    hugs and prayers .... and more hugs.

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IYA_EKUNDAYO 4/30/2013 9:01PM

    Tiffany my prayers are with you and your family. emoticon

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LOOZINITNOW 4/30/2013 10:57AM

    emoticon I am so sorry. Many thoughts, prayers and hugs for your family.

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RECREATING_ME 4/30/2013 12:38AM

    Oh, dear :( Many thoughts, prayers, and hugs for you and your family.

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SPASTASTIC 4/29/2013 9:55PM

    emoticon I'm so sorry your family is going through this. I'm praying for all of you.

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SANDRA2BSKINNY1 4/29/2013 4:20PM

    Tiffany I am here for you as a friend. I am a good listener so if you need to vent bring it on. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. emoticon

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CORKYTHEMOM1 4/29/2013 11:01AM

    Tiffany, thank you so much for taking the time to update us about your parents. I am here for you at any time. Embracing you in friendship, prayers, support and hugs.

~ Monika ~ emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LISAMG1220 4/29/2013 9:45AM

    I just want you to know that I am here for you if there is anything you need or of you just need someone to listen while you vent. No advice, just support. Hugs to you my friend. I am praying for some peace for you and your family.

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SLIMMERJESSE 4/29/2013 9:35AM

    Tears in my eyes reading this. Very sad and wishing your family good outcomes. I'm reading between the lines - car accident? Drunk driver hit them? I don't know if I'd come to a point of forgiveness. I hope you do. Big hug.

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ADARKARA 4/29/2013 9:30AM

    How did I miss this!? I'm so sorry this happened to you. I lost my father this year but it was so sudden. This must be torture. I'm going to be keeping you in my thoughts and hoping for a recovery. (I'm not religious AT ALL but I'm no athesist, so I can understand where you're coming from.) All of us will be here for you no matter how things work out. emoticon

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GAIIAGIIRL 4/29/2013 8:42AM

    Sending much love and strength your way. *hugs*

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    If I could loan you all my strength and heart right now, I would. My heart just completely goes out to you. You may feel tired and weak, but you certainly have more strength than you know, to come on here and write this update and insist on what you DON'T need. You are an amazing woman.
Take all the time you need. Treat yourself well so you will have what you need physically as you go through all these emotions and decisions. My prayers will continue for you and your whole family.
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EMMACORY 4/29/2013 6:54AM

    Tiffany, thank you for the update. I am glad that your Mother is improving. I am sorry that the situation with your Father is more challenging. I will continue to pray that you and your family have the wisdom and understanding you need in the days ahead to make whatever decisions you are faced with. Blessings of peace and love, June

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AWOOD1973 4/29/2013 2:50AM

    Just know that I am here to "hear" whatever you have to say. I am not a very religious person either, but have been praying for a full recovery for your father. So glad to hear that your mom is on the mend and is such a fighter. I also know what decisions you have to face in the coming weeks. My heart is heavy and goes out to you, as someone that has already lost a parent (father in particular). Please try to make sure that you get some meditation time, to put things into prospective for you and know that we are all rooting for your family's healing. So glad that you have family to lean on.

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SHOES17 4/29/2013 12:04AM

    emoticon I am here for you with prayers and friendship. I will be here to support you, because you are my friend and that is what friends do they support and respect each other. I wish for you the miracle you seek. emoticon

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BRADMILL2922 4/28/2013 11:55PM

    I am really pulling for you to get your miracle of peace and forgiveness. I can't say I understand what you are going throught but I will keep you and your parents in my thoughts and will continue hoping for the best for all of you. Glad to hear that your mom is so determined and I hope your Dad has that same fighting spirit within him. It isn't easy but do your best to stay positive and if you need something, you have my number. Take care.

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