Sunday, April 28, 2013
For the past several weekends I have worked with photographers at proms. I love it and all in all the kids are very nice. I love seeing the girls in their pretty dresses, high heels, makeup, hair done, etc and the boys in tux or suits and ties.
Then there are those that I don't like to see, like the girl who was seven or eight months pregnant, strutting around with a tight white dress that barely stretched over her large stomach with her navel sticking out at least an inch. That was not a sight that I appreciated especially since she looked like the same girl who was just as pregnant at the jr. prom last year and wore a tight dress that was bursting at the seams.
I wasn't crazy about the girls wearing the tu=tus either. If they had been dancing a ballet that would have been fine and they would have known to order the underwear that ballerinas wear that match the tutu. No, they did not do that and....well, you get the picture.
Then, last night I worked a prom that was a very small private school. What a huge difference from the big prom the night before. The decorations weren't professional but were wonderful. The parents and grandparents used their talents to decorate an "Under the Sea" theme. They had vases with lights in them but, unlike the hotel decorations they didn't have lamp shades but had live fish swimming in them. No, they weren't being flushed after the prom but the pet store had lent them for the dance! There were balloons, backdrops, streamers, crepe paper sea grass and sea weeds, etc. The food, unlike the tasteless hotel preparations was delicious. One grandmother had made sweet potato biscuits (tea size) and stuffed them with ham. someone else made brownies, cupcakes, wings, veggie trays, fruit trays, cheese and crackers, etc. and the main difference? The people were so wonderful! They were joking with the photographer and me and with each other, there was laughter, and pure enjoyment. The kids came in and wanted photos taken with the adults as with just their dates! The girls were beautiful in their sophisticated gowns and hairdos and the boys were handsome but the attitudes were so much more relaxed than at the big prom the night before.
I left there feeling a bit sad. I was sad because Ed wasn't here and I miss the laughter we shared every day and the closeness we had that I saw in some of the parents and grandparents last night. I was a bit sad because the prom the night before was so huge and they had police officers as well as hotel security and teachers stationed at strategic places. I was a bit sad because there was a more stressed out attitude at the prom on Friday and because the kids were different, more ghetto attitudes and less trusting and less able to relax and have fun.
I wish all kids could experience and enjoy the joy and trusting attitudes of the young people I saw last night as opposed to the ones Friday night. I wish all teachers could have smaller classes and be more relaxed. I wish.....