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Saturday, April 27, 2013

I was walking with an acquaintance yesterday when we passed a man who appeared to be very overweight.

“What a shame,” my walking partner said. “How do people let themselves get like that? Terrible!”

“We never know where people are,” I said. “Would you feel differently about that man if I told you he had lost 50 or 100 pounds this year?“

There was a pause before he said, “You’re right. I have no idea what that man has already faced or is trying to do right now.”

Point made; point heard.

Had any conversations like this lately?

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    I know that we can't really do it for someone else, but when I see someone who's body is lost beneath extra weight I do wish I had a magic wand to tap the person on the head and make everything all right again.

    I love your point. Judge not, right? that ye be not judged ... Whew.
    1785 days ago
  • LGAR519
    I've heard many conversations like that. It's a shame.
    1788 days ago
    Yes, I have heard conversations like that frequently. We never know if people have thyroid problems, etc.
    We shouldn't judge. Sometimes I know if I gave it to my wants, I could be overweight again. Then my doctor would give me another diet to follow. That will really throw you a curve when you are not expecting it.
    1788 days ago
    Honestly? I have to have this conversation with myself daily about far too many things. It is so much easier to see the mote in someone else's eye than the beam in my own! Thanks for reminding me to mind my own business and take care of my own challenges instead of judging others!
    1788 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I don't judge overweight people as I have been overweight all of my life. If anything I feel compassionate for them. Yet, I also realize that others are very critical of overweight people. I am glad you gave your friend insight.

    1788 days ago
  • --KREN
    I would add, perhaps he had a terrible injury or physical limitation that brought him to a complete halt for 10 years, physically, and is slowly trying to rehabilitate himself. Of course, that's because I was like that, even though I was never more than 25 lbs overweight.

    Good point. Thanks for bringing it to our awareness.

    1788 days ago
    Wonderful insight!
    1789 days ago
    Good for you, TORTISE! People who struggle with their weight are often victimized by a society which blindly embraces a double standard toward obesity. We push food, then punish those on whom we've pushed it.

    Something's terribly wrong about that dynamic, and something's very myopic about people who can't see it. You helped your acquaintance see a bit more clearly! emoticon
    1789 days ago
    That's an excellent point!
    1789 days ago
  • JACKIE542
    Good job, we don't know about people so we should not judge. emoticon
    1789 days ago
    Way to go! Ah, won hopes she and others that judge will never find out the answer to their question!
    1789 days ago
    Good for you!

    Just not lest ye be judged yourself. I think that is how that goes.

    You just never know what circumstances a person is dealing with.
    1789 days ago
    I never judge overweight people as I've walked in their shoes emoticon
    1789 days ago
    well, sorta...

    teaching english today, we learned how to disagree or show disapproval politely, by changing some statements.
    one student changed 'you blundering idiot' into
    'perhaps you should consider upgrading your qualifications'!

    i haven't stopped laughing.
    1789 days ago
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