Saturday, April 27, 2013
Geneen Roth is one of my heroes. I love her writing, her workshops, her audio tapes, her amazing presence, and the work she does to help so many women and men heal their relationship with food, eating, dieting and weight.
I've been reading her books since I was a teenager, and now that Facebook exists, it's a real treat to get messages from her on an almost daily basis. Her messages are full of a zen wisdom that really speaks to me.
Here are some of my favorites of late and how I connect with them:
1. "Remind yourself of all the things you are besides your body. Make a list. Begin it with "I am..." and don't allow any negative judgments about your body to creep in. In case you forget, you are worthwhile, you are caring, you are growing - to name just a few attributes."
I love this exercise because I find it challenging to do. It's so easy for me to fall into negative body talk and a myopic focus on my weight as if that is the only measure of my worth as a human being. So here goes: I am caring, loyal, generous, reflective, human, self-depricating, organized, hard-working, energetic, growing, strong, and resilient.
2. "Peace and contentment are feelings that take practice to achieve. They are not a consequence of being successful or being in love or being thin. They are, among other things, a consequence of stopping in the present moment and looking around."
This is brilliant. I find that when I'm in the moment, really in the moment, there is a wonderful sense of peace. More often than not, I'm lost in my head, in the past or the future, but when I catch myself and come back to the moment, there is so much to enjoy: new blossoms, my daughter's laugh, my students' insights, etc.
3. "One of the most difficult parts of changing how you live and how you eat is believing that change is possible. We all say we believe that, but many of us, deep down in our hearts believe that it's possible for other people, but not for us. That other people can do it, that the glowy warm life we imagine is for other people not for us. We have an unconscious belief that we can't do it, it's hopeless, and so, on some level, we stop making an effort. We lapse into the way it always was or is. But change really is possible. And it really does take a fierce kind of longing, and a fierce kind of love for yourself. For the life you knowis possible. Ask yourself what you love most of all. Do you love your life? And are you willing to take action on your own behalf?"
These are questions I'm confronting daily right now. Am I willing to change, to take action on my own behalf, to let go of my old patterns of dieting and binging, and instead really accepting myself as I am now and being at peace for once! Moving on and taking in the rest of my life instead of hiding behind the food issue.
For those interested, for some reason the Facebook link doesn't work, but just go to Facebook and search for Geneen Roth to like her page. You will then get her updates.