Saturday, April 27, 2013
" You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist." Indira Gandhi
I have learned this lesson well at work. I have a co-worker who is mad that I have more seniority than her even though she has been in the department longer. We were friends years ago and although I still consider her a friend , she does not feel the same.How do I know this she told me .
On top of this she gets numerous calls throughout the day from her daughter and Avon associates even though this is against company policy. .People come upstairs to look for her. When I give her, her messages she acts like she is mad and never says thank you.
I have tried to make the peace by trying to converse with her . When I ask her something she gives me the briefest answer possible. All the while conversing with my other co-worker for a half hour or more on the same subject. I have caught her numerous times telling other managers things we discussed to make me look bad and her good.
This all has made me very angry and it is hard to be a friend or even a co-worker when you are angry. We will never get anywhere not even to shake hands if I let my anger get in the way.
So each day I pretend I have met her for the first time . I try to be as pleasent to her and her Avon friends and chatty daughter as much as I can. Sometimes I almost forget that I am mad at her. I hope one day she will start a conversation with me or at least stop seeing me as the enemy.
If I let my anger go I find peace. If I feel more peaceful I will be more likely to eat better , sleep better and exercise more. The stress will leave my body and so will some of my excess calories held hostage by the stress . I need to let my anger go and unfurl my body . I need to find a way to enjoy the life I was meant to live. I need to remember that anger will stop me in my tracks every time . It stunts my life and my hopes . I allways want to live my life with open hands, arms and heart.
I hope this blog finds you peaceful and restfull and carefree your life may depend on it. Let the anger go and let love in . Peace be with you. HUGS.