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Saturday, April 27, 2013

" You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist." Indira Gandhi

I have learned this lesson well at work. I have a co-worker who is mad that I have more seniority than her even though she has been in the department longer. We were friends years ago and although I still consider her a friend , she does not feel the same.How do I know this she told me .
On top of this she gets numerous calls throughout the day from her daughter and Avon associates even though this is against company policy. .People come upstairs to look for her. When I give her, her messages she acts like she is mad and never says thank you.

I have tried to make the peace by trying to converse with her . When I ask her something she gives me the briefest answer possible. All the while conversing with my other co-worker for a half hour or more on the same subject. I have caught her numerous times telling other managers things we discussed to make me look bad and her good.
This all has made me very angry and it is hard to be a friend or even a co-worker when you are angry. We will never get anywhere not even to shake hands if I let my anger get in the way.

So each day I pretend I have met her for the first time . I try to be as pleasent to her and her Avon friends and chatty daughter as much as I can. Sometimes I almost forget that I am mad at her. I hope one day she will start a conversation with me or at least stop seeing me as the enemy.

If I let my anger go I find peace. If I feel more peaceful I will be more likely to eat better , sleep better and exercise more. The stress will leave my body and so will some of my excess calories held hostage by the stress . I need to let my anger go and unfurl my body . I need to find a way to enjoy the life I was meant to live. I need to remember that anger will stop me in my tracks every time . It stunts my life and my hopes . I allways want to live my life with open hands, arms and heart.

I hope this blog finds you peaceful and restfull and carefree your life may depend on it. Let the anger go and let love in . Peace be with you. HUGS.
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    What a wonderful idea!! Act like you met for the first time!! I have a couple of co-workers I need to try this on!!!

    Have a wonderful and relaxing Sunday!! emoticon
    1756 days ago
    You are such a good person Joanne. I am not
    sure if I could do this either. You are right not
    to stress. This woman sounds as though she could
    be one of my co-workers. I had an incident where
    I spoke up and she put the waterworks on and had
    me transferred out of the department because she's
    so close to the Head of Department. I always speak to
    her and she ignores me but I just talk to her anyway.
    After reading your blog, I will just continue to talk to
    her as normally as possible and it must bug her more
    that I talk to her. Thanks for a great blog. emoticon
    1756 days ago
    I'm glad you are taking care of yourself and recognizing stress and anger for what it is. Don't rent out room in your head to someone who causes you grief. Stress is your response to something unjust, it's normal. What you do with it is your chance to shine.
    Back to the other woman. If you can find compassion in your heart try to think what it must be like to be her. What drives her, what fuels her anger? A lot of it is a reflex on her part. Stand aside and let her pain go past you.
    Just writing about this is beneficial and I'm in your cheering section.
    1756 days ago
    So sorry you have a co-worker who makes your day unpleasant. You have such a great attitude about it though! Keep it going and surely things will improve soon! Until then, hang in there. emoticon
    1757 days ago
    Let go and let God handle this for you. She doesn't sound like much of a friend.
    1757 days ago
    Great blog..

    My motto...

    Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you,
    not because the are nice, but because you are nice.

    1757 days ago
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    You are amazing. I am going to try to follow your good example. emoticon emoticon
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    1757 days ago
    I will tell you like it is....Give up the hurts only you. But do not buddy up to this girl....only be kind as you would a client or customer. She will hurt you. Her heart is not clean. If she gives you a hard time in public....put her in her place. If it persists go to a supervisor. She will stop or change her attitude. I will put this in my prayers.... emoticon
    1757 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/27/2013 3:32:43 PM
    I am not sure I would be as good as you. I would interact only with her for business reasons and ignor her....but you are a bigger person. good for you.
    Have a terrific week end.
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