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A Best and Worst Day

Saturday, April 27, 2013

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Tuesday was a best and worst day for me. We were invited to go to Ohio State U. to see the Capstone Design Showcase of the graduating seniors in engineering.. GD2 is being graduated in Biomedical Engineering. We are so proud of her. The students display their Capstone Prajects. Samantha's team did a revised lift for immobile people. It was more secure and moveable than the current one. All the projects were awesome! Visions of the future in engineering.

Tuesday was the worst day, because I became aware that DH is old. He has always been amazing in his brain power. And his physical power. If we went to a museum or activity, he would spend all day looking and learning. They'd close the doors on him and our youngest son. Tuesday, he looked at granddaughters' and then sat down. Then later DS came and took him to see Aquaponics- Food Supply system, DH glances and walked to end of aisle and sat down. I tried to point out things to him like a John Deere Atonomous Tractor, Women's Heart Health, EcoCAR2 Charging System, etc, etc, etc. He has always wanted to know how things work and has had great interest and appreciation of youth's efforts. Tuesday he was totally uninterested. When did this happen, did the 12 hour surgery during his glossectomy affect his thinking. He is now realizing he has limitations, and my heart is breaking.
What does this have to do with fitness? I'd better get and be fit for us.

The funny part of the day was this was the day the skunk sprayed our porch so we walked through and carried that odor. DS didn't have to look for us sitting somewhere, he could smell us out.
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MSKRIS7 6/2/2013 9:11AM

    I also have noticed a memory loss in my husband. It is hard when you notice they are just not quite there. He can say the same thing or ask the same question that he just asked. At first I would get angry but not I do not. I took some classes on how to deal with a family member with memory loss and it helped out alot.

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    Sorry about the tough day. It's never easy to see someone change in ways they probably don't welcome themselves.

I know that my grandmother had lots of changes as she aged but she never lost her capacity to love.


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CLWALDRO 4/29/2013 8:13AM

    I suggest you take your DH to the Dr to have an accessed to make sure it is just old age and not the beginnings of something else.
I hope you do focus on fitness so you can take care of yourself in the future.
I know all things are possible it we just start moving forward.
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CAROLJ35 4/28/2013 9:10PM

    Your blog is very interesting. My DH will be 81 this summer, is extremely physically fit, exercises, and works hard when necessary. But I do notice the change in memory as time goes by. Of course, I slip up occasioinally, too.
Congrats to GD for her success.
And I just can't imagine the "skunk episode". We never seem to see or smell skunks since moving from PA to NC.
Keep your chin up and keep challenging DH.

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DANCINCAJUN1 4/28/2013 12:31PM

    haling takes so much time as we age for sure. You definitely have reason to be proud ... it was always fun when my son was in engineering in college and did all kinds of things to improve life for others .... every day amazes me as I remember us in the 50's .... things have really changed !! yikes ... skunks are awful ! Roc

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MNABOY 4/28/2013 12:40AM

    The surgery will take more time for recovery. I was in my late 50's and had knee replacement a year to the day apart and I noticed the extra effort required. You lift me with your humor as you deal with the challenge. Also, some days are just bad days.

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CARRAND 4/27/2013 7:18PM

    i think surgery does slow people down. It may be only a temporary thing. Congrats to your granddaughter.

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KALIGIRL 4/27/2013 7:04PM

    Sorry to hear about your soulmate - hope you can achieve your healthy goals for both of you...
Namaste my friend

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TATTER3 4/27/2013 5:01PM

    Ellen, my honey has deteriorated dramatically over the last 10 years. I grieve watching him moving slower, having to rest more, becoming weaker, and on and on. I slow down for him and just try to encourage him the best I can..but the sadness and frustration is there anyway. You're not alone.
Sorry about the stink too. LOL

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KATHYJO56 4/27/2013 2:18PM

    Ellen, It has always amazed me how one day life can be full of joy and promise for the future and the next day we get a jolt of reality. My heart goes out to you, but I hope that you continue to look for the things that bring you moments of happiness. The skunk story was funny and a good way to end the blog. emoticon

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GOSPELCLOWN 4/27/2013 11:27AM

    It is amazing how one day can show us such extremes. May the coming months be a time of improved health for the both of you!

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DR1939 4/27/2013 10:46AM

    Surgery and anesthetics are hard on everyone and everyone has decrements following them. However, because they have limited resources the very young and the old take longer to recover and the decrements are more noticeable. Give him time and help him to stay active and you should see some recovery over the long term. Also, consider having his medications evaluated. Discuss with his physician the possibility of occupational therapy. It can speed the recovery of mental processes. Does he have any indications of depression? This, too, can intensify mental and physical problems and is not uncommon following surgery or illness.

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PATRICIAAK 4/27/2013 10:14AM

    congrats to GD2
so sorry about DH
smiling about the last para.

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